i was aggraphobic for 2 years now have deppresion & seems men dont want to know but i just want someone to love me for who i am ?
2006-06-09 10:14:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have depression and am unwanted by women. How about coffee?
2006-06-09 10:23:59 · answer #1 · answered by niceblondguy 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My wife has been married to a depressive for 12 years and it's not been easy for her. So have I, and it's been tough for me too! The better each of us get, the better it is for the other one.
You might find that in the end you attract the "bird with a broken wing" type of person. That's nice in one sense but dangerous in another - that kind is probably also depressed. Two depressives does not a happy household make.
Are you being helped for the depression? I mean professionally. If not, I think you should look for help. As you do that, things may start to change for you. It might be at such a slow pace that you don't think it's happening. But others will. That process needs to be as separate from relationships with men as you can make it. Then, slowly, and by putting yourself in fortune's way, your love problem will solve itself.
This is a whole load of guesswork cos you didn't give many details, we've never met and, well, I'm not a psychologist. I'm just a long term depressive who's had every treatment on the shelf and is now a whole lot better. Deciding to recover was an extremely good move for me. Addressing it separately from my relationship problems (many) was also a good idea in the end.
2006-06-09 17:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some meds and theraphy if depression is keeping you from normal social interaction.
Yes, there are men out there that will want you, but you need to feel WORTH of happiness, otherwise, you will scare evryone away under the excuse of "they didn't want me anyway" or "why trying if I'm gonna suffer anyway"
Help yourself firs because in order for you to be happy you have to be able to offer happiness, and for depression sufferrs, it's not a question of will.
THERAPHY! It works! Recoup your self wotrth and sense of worthiness. YOU ARE WORTH IT! You just have to belive it.
2006-06-09 17:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess it can be a bit of a downer. Try pretending not to be depressed if you can. You might get used to it and being happy become a habit.Smile even when you don't feel like it. It is the biggest turn on for a bloke.
2006-06-09 19:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be mean.
It's simple, get help from a reputable doc. Learn to love yourself first. I would guess that maybe you're looking for someone else to make you feel "worthy".
No one can fix you but you. Good luck
2006-06-09 17:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lakin J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think you need to be happy with yourself before you can ever make someone else happy.
If that doesn't work just hang outside an AA meeting when they let out. You can meet someone who is more needy than you!
2006-06-09 17:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Chicago S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expand the scope of your search. I'm sure there are a lot of guys out there that would be fine with you - the good and the bad. Every girl has good and not so good qualities.
2006-06-09 17:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by tshnobodysfool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that men dont want u or something...its just that u have created in ur mind a feeling that men dont want u.....just remove this misunderstanding...and live life. u ll certainly find ur true love..wish u all the best
2006-06-09 17:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably have more chance of meeting the right man than anyone else.
There is someone for everyone.
Time will show you, don't get down about it.
Wish I knew you.
2006-06-09 17:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mr T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop looking and make room in your life for a relationship
this is the hard part, but you have to be happy with being alone and by yourself FIRST
being happy is about being satisfied with who you are and what you have
2006-06-09 17:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by unseen_force_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you dealing with the aggrophobia???
Once you come to terms with your phobia, then you should start to pick up...
Chat with people online and get your confidence back.. Always happy to help... :D
2006-06-09 17:26:02 · answer #11 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋