I am a 27yrs old female and i just got married 2months ago after 5weeks after my marriage my husband traveled?

Question

out of town on a bussiness trip and am left with his friend who came to spend few weeks with us,i tried to be nice with the guy stanley but something happened one night which i cant really explain i dont remember going into my bed room that night but the next morning i found myself in my bed and i feel hurt between my thight also inside me was wet and i was kind of weak and dizzy the next day.Am not sure if stanley had intercouse with me that night because i was drunk and not just drunk but druged i assume.Please people should i confront this stanley guy or should i ask him in my husbands present because am pregnant and am not sure whose baby it is.am confused and afriad to loose my husband i love him and want to have this baby only if it is for my husband

Answer 1

talk to your husband immediately. don't confront stanley until you do. then you two can determine the best and safest course of action for you. don't wait

Answer 2

This story sounds so concocted; it has so many holes in it--no....you're not telling the whole truth on this one.

1. Why were you drinking until you were drunk with "Stanley?"
2. Why would your husband leave on a business trip with a man in your house?
3. In your "very innocent words," after you were aware of your physical condition the next morning, why didn't you call your husband on his business trip and tell him you believed you were raped; then why didn't you get to an ER and have yourself checked?
4. Where was Stanley the next morning?
5. If your husband knew this person well enough to allow him to stay in your home for "a few weeks," then I'm sure your husband can get hold of "Stanley."
6. Have you told your husband anything about this?
7. YES, confront him in your husband's presence---he should have already been arrested for rape, if this story has any truth to it at all.
8. What if this child is "Stanley's" and he decides he wants custody of the child? Then you and your husband will not be a part of that baby's and "Stanley's" life from now on.

You wrote this as if you were some 13 year old kid who doesn't have a clue. You're not. You messed up. This sounds more like "an alibi letter" that you can use later. Now, there's an innocent baby who is going to have to be born into a situation filled with lies, resentment, anger, betrayal, fear, and deceit. The child is going to be the victim in all this.

There are far too many "gray" areas in your story for this to be true.

Answer 3

Let you husband know what is going on, tell him the truth exactly what you know happened, or what you remember happened. If you feel compelled to get the police involved do it, but let your husband be there when you confront Stanley about what happened that night, b/c you do not know what his reaction may be. Go to the doctor and get a DNA test done to let you know who is the father of the baby (I am not to sure if they could do it before the baby is born but I do remember hearing they could...so check it out!).

Most of all be careful around this Stanley man, clearly he has no respect for you or your husband, try not to be alone with him, if he assaulted you once chances are he may do it again, if he gets the chance. Do what you think is best for you and be honest with your husband I am sure he'll understand.

Answer 4

You need to tell your husband what happened. The way you explained it it is quite possible your husband's friend put roofies in your drink and raped you. Your husband needs to know. If he loves you he should believe you. Once the baby is born have a paternity test done than you will know.

Some made a comment about how you are lying because you didn't call the police. About 60% of rapes do not go to the police about it.

Answer 5

i am so very sorry that this happened to you. I was a victom of the same type of thing, and Honey i am telling you from one wonmen to another if this man did this to you your probably not the first and you prbably won't be the last. You need to tell your Hubby what happened, and tell the police. I can tell you from experince that none oh it will be easy, but you have to do something. you can let keep doing this to others. the sad part is he is probably never going to stop hurting wome for what ever reason.

Answer 6

Are you married or are you a virgin? Looking back on your past questions I think you're just confused. You should never have drank with a stranger in the house. You'll have to just wait for the baby to be born then you can find out who's it is for sure.... if this is even a real situation.

Answer 7

you have to tell your husband this is too important to keep from him. He souldnt of left you alone with his company any way in the first place. I would talk to my husband first. Dont know what I would say to him but be carefull not to come on to strong about it. I would assume that starting out with some tears would soften the blow. Wow I hope every thing goes well for you.

Answer 8

wow, that sucks, talk to stanely of course he'll deny drugging, also tell ur husband that u think u were drugged and see what happens, and get a faternity test to see whose the father. Good luck.

Answer 9

I would go to the police because that would be considered rape that is not right, I would tell your husband right away if he leaves you over his friend raping you than there was nothing there to begin with Good Luck

Answer 10

you should have gone to the ER or your family DR the next day. get both of their dna's.take a glass or pop can, something that will have their saliva on it. your DR or health dept can help you with this.find out which one is the father. then go from there. GOOD LUCK