I am 19 and I am divorced. I was married for a year and a half. My relationship was nothing but hatred. We never got along. And we both saw othe ppl behind each others backs. So we ended it for the sake of each other.Now i am engaged to be married again. This time it is RIGHT. I know that. But it seems to me that no one wants to support me in what i am doing. We are going to the mtns. to get marrried. It is like pulling teeth to try and get my fam to come to the wedding.They have a bad attitude. and keep saying I shouldnt get married. I should give my ex another chance. My whole fam is friends with him, so bc of that me and my fiance can't have anything to do with them. They say my ex will always be apart of their lives. WHY. I am their blood. Their kin. Why turn your back on me for a guy that treated me like crap and did nothing but bring me down. I want so bad to just let them go and move on. But I can't until i understand why they are doing this to me. Plese help me decide what 2do!
2006-06-09 09:36:19 · 4 answers · asked by Jen R. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to do what you have to do but realize this your family is honestly not taking your marriage very seriously and that is because of your track record. You got married young. You admitted that you treated each other like crap and cheated on each other. You just recently got divorced. And now are engaged to get married again. I hate to tell you but it looks like you are rushing into marriage again. If things get bad in this relationship what is to stop you from cheating on him. I just want to know what is the rush? What is the big deal if you two wait a couple of years to get married?
You say it is right You probably said that about your last marriage. In their eyes you are to immature to be getting married at all.
If you want family support you are not going to get it. It is hard for people to support something when they think it is a big mistake and you are not serious about it.
To be honest I don't know you and I'm thinking what the hell are you doing? I would suggest getting out and living a little before you tie yourself down. If it is meant to be you two will still be married down the road.
2006-06-09 10:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your family all of your questions and listen to what they have to say. Then make your decision about what to do. I feel like you have the right to marry and ask and depend on your families support on whatever you do. If you do as they wish that is not fair to you and you need to be happy. If they refuse to accept your new husband, then that is their loss. It hurts like hell and you need to tell your family that. Live your life as you want and let your family know how you feel and they can either be there for you or not. Try to be nice and cordial about it all but you gotta stand your ground. My family sometimes acts controlling too.
2006-06-16 04:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been seeing this new guy? How long has it been since the divorce? These are questions I would need to know before I can answer correctly!
2006-06-16 02:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by lrybio2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what's right for YOU and your future. If they drag you down, let them go. Tell them that you love them and want their understanding, but you're still sticking with your decision...
2006-06-09 09:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by dubbledee71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋