Would you stay with a man you thought had been with a prostitute?

Question

... If he wanted sex, but you had refused him?
... If you thought you loved him?

Answer 1

OMG this guy i was interested in sleeps with them becuase he says its easier than a relationship and i lost all interest. im dissapointed becuase we are best friend snow but there was so much potential there.

Answer 2

To say No way dump him or Yes give him another try is far too matter of fact and not too helpful. Let me explain.....as a guy....If I truly loved a girl I was with and they werent ready for sex then I certainly wouldnt want to have sex with anyone else because the intimacy and the connection just isnt there so it wouldnt be the same wether the 3rd party was a prostitute or not. No excuses - if you love someone you are passionate about them you think only about them - no one else comes close. For example I love my sports car its a Lotus Esprit (the one that Richard Gere didnt know how to drive in pretty woman pt1.) After partying at night Im never sad that Im leaving my friends or a party etc because I know the journey home is going to put a massive grin on my face. If a friend offered me to drive his Audi TT or TVR I just wouldnt want to - they are also great cars but theyre just not my car. I wouldnt even be tempted. So the way I look at it he doesnt love you at least not yet... The question is are you after Sex with someone you love and you know loves you or are you just after sex. Also I dont want to hurt the people I really care about so if I suspected that something I was about to do would really upset them, or put the damper on things, I would check first. Every guy knows how he'd feel if his woman shagged another bloke - prostitute or not. So back to the issue if my woman wasnt ready for sex and I was then I know I'd have to go out of my way to get her trust, her confidence, make her feel secure, sexy and wanted - then I do everything I could to make her want to rip my clothes off. The buzz of success in this area would far outweigh the frustration of having to wait - as the saying goes - GOOD things happen to those who WAIT! Good luck. Remenber you have a womans intuition. Trust it! Its telling you the truth! So you already know what the right answer for you is :-)

Answer 3

Well that would depend. Was he a prostitute while you were together or not? If it was while you were together I would have to say absolutely not. Unless that was his only way of making an income so you or any of your children could live eat etc. If he did it before you were together I don't see why there would be a huge problem with it. It's not like he had control over who you slept with or didn't sleep with before you were together. Sometimes prostitution isnt a choice sometimes it is the only way to survive the hard times. Try talking it over with him and finding out the truth. That is always the best place to start.

Answer 4

no is no. There is a reason God gave men hands. If you told him no, then he should have figured something out BY HIMSELF. The fact that he cheated on you, shouldn't be tolerated. There will be many more times in the future when you will want to say no, and you shouldn't have to feel roped into it to keep him at home, or expect him to leave your side b/c your out of the mood.
Of course this answer is only if I read the qu right and he did that while you two were together. If he was with a prostitute while he was single then no don't hold it agianst him.

Answer 5

There is a fundamental gender perception issue here. Women and men view sex entirely diffrently. For the majority of men sex is simply sex. It is a frustrating chore to get done but once we're doing it it's actually quite nice.

If a man sees a prostitute it has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with his emotional committment for you. Most women simply cannot grasp this concept because it is alien for you. For women you generally need to feel love and connection to desire sex. For guys we just need a healthy babe who's willing and we're off to the races.

If this guy is seeing a prostitute then it can mean several things:
a) He is highly sexed and just needs more release b) You are sexually inadequate for his needs c) He enjoys the variety.

In all 3 cases he still loves you because MEN CAN SEPARATE SEX AND LOVE.

Any woman who would dump you for seeing a prostitute is simply being ignorant or insensitive to here lovers needs and probably struggles to hold down a quality man anyway.

The man is best of dumping HER and getting a woman who will take care of him.

Viking xxx

Answer 6

That depends. Before knowing you or after knowing you? If it is before and you want to be safe at the same time you loved him, ask him to go for a full check up first before having any relationship with him. If the check up report is alright, you can forgive him because everyone has a past. But if this happen after being with you, my advise is get rid of him, don't let him get near you. Then it will be your turn to go for a check up.

Answer 7

Ewww I don't think so I don't care how much I cared about this guy I don't care if it was long before he ever even knew who I was that's just gross and nobody should have to pay someone for sex in the first place. I would definitely leave him! I'm sorry but it's just not right!

Answer 8

No. Even if it isn't true, just thinking that he would be the type of person to possible do something like that means that you need to stay away from him. Not to mention the fact of all the STDs he could have.

Answer 9

that's nasty girl, these prositutes are not all healthy. Why would he go to a prostitute, you have to make sure that your doing your job to keep your man. He needs to get tested before you do anything else with him.

Answer 10

I would have to have absolute proof. Not just someone's say so either, its either I see it with my own eyes or they have pics to prove it or his confession.
OK so maybe I'm a little to trusting. But I cant believe half of the people here where I live, if they told me what their name is, I would want to see their birth certificate.