2006-06-09 09:21:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Unfair to who?
Forgiveness is always for the benefit of the person forgiving and not necessarily for the one being forgiven.
2006-06-09 09:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by justaskn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great prophet wrote, "Mercy cannot rob justice."
If you think that by your forgiveness a person escapes the laws of justice, you have a misconception. Forgiveness on our part does not let a person off the hook. They are still answerable to God and nature for what they have done. If my child climbs onto the roof of the house, which is against my rules, and falls off, I may forgive my child for breaking the rules. But the child will still suffer the natural consequences of his actions. Even if the child does not get hurt, there are natural consequences when we form a habit or character of disobedience. You never really get away with anything.
If person A borrows $1,000,000 from person B, and then refuses to pay it back, should B forgive person A? That would not be just or fair. But shouldn't person B be forgiving? How do we resolve this problem? What if person C is willing to pay the debt for person A? Then the laws of justice are satisfied, and the laws of mercy. Person A now owes everything to person C. Jesus Christ is the person C in our lives.
If someone were to kill one of my children, I see no problem in forgiving that person. It would be hard to do, but to keep an unforgiving heart would hurt me, and not the murderer. But after I forgive the murderer, do I try to help him from paying the penalty of the law? No. I let the law take its course, which punishes the individual whom I have forgiven. And justice and mercy are satisfied.
2006-06-09 16:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Doctor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's unfair. I think when I hold on to something and not forgive someone for a wrong that it really only hurts me. I can't grow because I am stuck in this anger. Most ppl that you need to forgive have forgotten what they have done to get you angry....in other words they are over it and you are the one that is grappling w/forgiving.
I say forgiveness is healthy but just because you forgive you don't have to forget...we learn that way from wrongs done to us.
2006-06-09 16:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than a concept, it is a TEST. More like an 'Acid Test' if you claim to follow and adapt the teaching of Christ, and truly mean it when you say the Lord's Prayer.
It's no easy task or joyride to FORGIVE someone who has wronged you too deeply; many people will never forgive! Nor is it an easy task to ASK/beg for FORGIVENESS from someone whom you had wronged quite deeply... for the same reason that many people will never forgive!
And it is only AFTER the fact or act, i.e., when you shall have accomplished both tasks, that your Sins will be FORGIVEN by God... As in "...forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us..."
God is Good and God is Merciful! Glory be to God forever!!
2006-06-09 18:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by Arf Bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One great command that Jesus Christ gave us was to LOVE one another, the most dificult thing is to love a stranger, yet to love your mother it's very easy, (If you don't agree with me look around you how many people are looking for real love). So to forgive one person is the hardest thing to do, but if you can surpase the battles than your a real winner. To forgive is a battle on it's own, but if you surpase the battle you will receive the victory and it's crown. Theirfore forgiveness is a powerfool thing that some people can't do. They give up on their blessing because with the crown comes the blessings. Do everything God comanded you to do even if it doesn't feel right at the moment, sooner or later you'll see that it was al worth it.
love, one cristian
2006-06-09 16:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by Believer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because of forgiveness you can release a heavy load of bitterness that eats you up and you can release a heavy deal of anger that consumes you when you forgive others quickly. Trust me I know from past experience. I used to struggle with unforgiveness and bitterness and I was hurting big time inside. But the forgiveness released a lot of anger inside of me.
2006-06-09 16:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by blessedman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! If all of life were truly fair, most of us would be in all kinds of trouble. Thank God for the 'unfairness' of forgiveness!
2006-06-09 16:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how you look at it-- i say no because you treat others the way you want to be treated and everyone makes mistakes... now if it happens over and over again then yes forgiveness could be considered unfair because you are constantly make ammends and people take that for granted.
2006-06-09 16:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by angelcdm228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How so? You need to qualify this question. I don't see how it's unfair. You wrong someone and they forgive you...what's unfair about that?
2006-06-09 16:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by w00hahaha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we do not forgive other people, God will not forgive us.
Matthew 6:14-15
14-For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
15-But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses
2006-06-09 16:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by Rhonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋