she is really wanting to get away from her mother to be with me so we can start a family togerther, and I want to be with her also I miss her I can't call her because her mother won't let me talk to her on the phone.
2006-06-09 09:03:27 · 22 answers · asked by J-MAN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, in the first place, I think you shouldn't get married until and unless you have found a job and you actually earn on ur own!...You should therefore make her understand that getting married is no joke...because its a huge responsibility as you currently have no job and matters worsen as you don't even have a place to live. So, where will u guys reside? If taken all this into consideration...I don't think u shud get married now...Make her understand the situation amicably and if she really does love you...I am sure she will be wid u until u guys become stable...and later on when u have a house and a job, u can surely get married and then start a family...please, do not rush or juss be in a hurry to start a family as u will not live a happy life until n unless u have some needs fulfilled which will eventually happen when u get a job. Talk to ur girlfriend and make her understand. Good Luck with everything! :)
2006-06-09 09:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by lil angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want to get married just because your girlfriend wanted to? My suggestion is you better have a good talk with her. Tell her marriage is not just 2 person, it also involves with 2 families. And there is no sense of security for the both of you. Love is not just living on water and air, is far more than that. Look further, or maybe just think about tomorrow if that is the distance that both of you can see if both of you really get married. If both of you cannot made a decision, write down the pros and cons.
Good luck to both of you. But if both of you really get married, I will be taking back my words of GOOD LUCK.
2006-06-09 16:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by simple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right to be concerned that you are not in a position to offer marriage. Reassure your gf that you are there for her but that marriage is not possible just yet. If she really loves you she'll wait and appreciate you wanting to offer her a secure future. Be careful of your heart though. I've had friends who got married to get away from their family and it didn't last and the guy felt really used.
2006-06-09 18:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all what's the rush it does not sound like either one of you are ready for a marriage let alone relationship. She sounds like she might be too young for you since her mom is controlling her phone calls. Get yourself together and make sure that this is what you really want. Good luck!
2006-06-09 19:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got to find a secure job first b4 making a big sept like starting a family u guys should sort out the issue of her mother not wanting u guys to have contact with each other
2006-06-09 16:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by destiny00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A JOB AND BE A MAN!mother won't let her talk to you because she thinks you are a loser.
2006-06-09 16:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she isnt very sensible, so it looks like in your relationship yur going to have to be the smart one, tell her to wait until you get a job and place, its really hard to live with other people at the beginnning of marrage. so decide your going to wait. if she smart she will decide you are ringt but if she is a fool she might leave you but then you don't want to be stuck with a foolish woman the rest of your life so be careful.
2006-06-09 16:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously both of you get jobs and when you can afford to move out do so and if that go's well then you can get married n start a family
2006-06-11 14:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by insertstrawhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her yes but to wait until you get a job and a place to live you don't want to rush into anything. If she can't wait for then you guys might not be meant to be.
2006-06-09 16:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by Haley W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she want u she'll wait ,u too should wait because marriage is a big responsibility (any way how older u),u looks like 15 years old or less
2006-06-09 16:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by ANUBIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋