2006-06-09 08:58:46 · 25 answers · asked by J-MAN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hold off......how exactly are you gonna pay for it? Unless she's rich, in which case....go for it!
2006-06-09 09:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by scatz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married. Job, money, house... They're all irrelevant. Marriage isn't about those things, it's about choosing to love someone for ever (corny, I know - but that's it isn't it?).
I got married when I was in debt! I had no job and no house - but you face these things together. My parents did the same and they're still together after 33 years and very happy.
Whether your marriage lasts or not probably won't have anything to do with whether you have a job or not. Lack of money can be a strain, but it will only break a marriage if you let it - if you fight, or blame, or take it out on each other, or aren't supportive towards one another. So if you love one another, and you know you're going to get married, then do it and it doesn't matter about the money.
2006-06-09 09:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by D Law 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you have explained to her that you would like to, but you have to wait until you can afford a place to live, eat, pay bills, etc. And you can't live on love. You have to have some kind of base to start on. A job that you know will last more than 2 weeks. Also it depend allot on what kind of wedding she wants. Who's to pay for it. And also just because you have a big wedding, does not guarantee, you will stay married the rest of your lives, so why start out in debt already, even if her parents pay for it, does not mean it will last. If you go ahead and marry her, she will eventually come to realize you do not have the money to do all this, and she will resent you for it, and then blame you for getting married in the first place.
Stormy
2006-06-09 09:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by stormyweathers12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hold it off for a bit im sure there's no rush, the last thing you should do is get married and put yourself in dept, take your time and sort yourself out get a job and find a place for the both of you once you are financially stable then you can think about marriage. Good Luck :D
2006-06-09 09:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do Not get married until you do have a job and somewhere to live. You dont say how old you are wear condoms until you have a job and somewhere to live. I hope the reason your girlfriend wants to get married is not because she is pregnant if she is seek advice. Get off your bum and get a job and look for somewhere to live. If you do not want to marry her tell her but dont lead her on.
2006-06-09 13:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly55freedom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHOW HER THIS! girlfriend you have to have money to live. LOVE doesn't pay the bills. Stop being immature and insecure. You both need to work and support each other. The economy has changed. If she chooses to sit at home and be a lazy *** DUMP HER! I am a woman by the way. Dont waste your time on a idiot like her! find someone with some common sense. APPARENTLY she doesn't seem to have any! duh what fuking idiot will rush into a marriage without an income? is she slow? was she on the little bus and you don't remember?
2006-06-09 09:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by yogishwife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? Are you ready for marriage?get a job and move in together first to see how you get on.The responsibility of looking after a home and family is huge and shouldn't be taken on lightly maybe you should explain this ti your girlfriend in a way that won't hurt her feelings but also it is an option for the future.x.
2006-06-10 22:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by caw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want the same get a job ,find a place to live and marry her.
2006-06-09 09:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT until you have an established job and can afford a decent place to live. and, she to should have a job so as to help out. marriage is two people working as one.
2006-06-09 10:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by chapes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not planning on supporting the two of you for as long as necessary, DON'T get married.
If she is planning or supporting the two of you, what is she thinking?! That sounds like a rocky start for a marriage, and marriage is hard enough as it is without making it even tougher.
2006-06-09 09:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl wants to marry a Loser like you you should race her to the alter.
2006-06-09 11:19:28 · answer #11 · answered by hermom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋