I have a bf and he alittle chubby but I really like hime does anybody know how to talk him into loseing fat?

Answer 1

I never told a man to do that... well, I didn't have a need to do so since I like people just the way they are and for who they are on inside. To me size doesn't matter. However, personality, how he treats me, and how he makes feel when I'm with him... those things matter to me more than weight/size, nationality and even skin color (just to name few).

The only thing I'll suggest is not say it like he's embaressing and/or discusting you in any way, in other words: be careful how you phrase it or anything else to a man. Otherwise, you'll end up having a little bit more than you've bargained for: he won't listen to you as he did before, and he'll shut down emotionally as well as mentally and physically, and he might not accept you the way he did before. Men loose access weight a lot faster than women do (on average about 57.3% faster), and sometimes (just like for women) it depends on the season when they gain and when they loose weight. Don't assume that he's not aware of it in his own way and he's not trying his best to loose it either.

Tell him that he's the most handsome man you've ever seen, let him know how much you love him and how happy he makes you. Your words of encouragement will mean a lot more than saying how unhappy you are with him gaining weight. Encouragement and letting the person know how proud you are of them (no matter how they look or what they do) more times than not are the best motivators for people not only to loose weight but also move mountains :)

Answer 2

Before I say anything about this subject I mush be honest, I have just married a man who is 6ft. tall and weight about 280 lbs.
So I feel like I can be very honest.
Now that I got that out there let me stress the main fact that you can give him, having so much extra weight on the human body there are health risks that will effect him in his later years, I am talking about by the time he gets to his early 30's.
High blood pressure, diabetes, heart attacks, arthritis, and there are a lot more to go, but let him know that you really like him and you don't want to see him get sick or unhealthy early on, these things will not wait to attack until he is in his 30's, it can start taking action as soon as the 20's.
But I will say this most of the bigger guys I know (personally) are some of the sweetest, and funniest guys I know because they have personalities.
So let him know that you are not trying to change him, just keep him alive and healthy.

Answer 3

First of all he is who he is. Who are you to judge someone else ?? Second of all if you had a problem with his weight you never should've dated him. How would you feel if he told you to get a nose job because yours was bothering him???? My guess is not very good. Also don't listen to the people that are telling you to just tell him. That is rude, it will hurt his feelings, or give him low self esteem. Furthermore that is the person that he is either deal with it or go find yourself another boytoy!!!!

P.S. Get some help sweetheart because physical appearance isn't everything. And even thin people can be just as unhealthy as an overweight person.

Answer 4

First let me say if you really like him then you shouldn't care that he has to lose a couple of pounds. But now that I got that out of the way, one thing you can try is to do active things with him. Tell him you'd like to go hiking or join a softball team... or any sport you enjoy. Or you can tell him that YOU were thinking of joining a gym, but you don't want to go alone. Ask him if he would join you. This way you can get him to exercise, hence losing some weight, while not hurting his feelings.

Answer 5

Everyone has their ideal man. So I understand if you feel as if there needs to be a slight change in order for him to be you're ideal man. You should join the gym yourself and ask him to join it with you. Tell him you think it would be really fun to go to the gym together. This way maybe he'll start to like working out. Also for a few weeks, eat healthy around him. If you guys decide to go eat fastfood, suggest to get subway. And as he progresses, tell him how good he looks, this will motivate him more. Goodluck!!

Answer 6

thats not very nice of u..u shud never try to change a person physically or mentally it ends up hurting their feelings and telling them they arent good enough for you. IF you really like him u wudnt care and u wud love and accept him the way he is. MOst guys lose weight as they get taller anyways..you sound immature..when u start having relationships with ppl u have to change urself and be willing to love people for who they are..ppl are beautiful on the inside only.

Answer 7

His weight should not matter. If it does then you dont care for him. You young people need to get a life. Someday you will find out the hard way. Life is not easy. You just need to find someone that treats you good and loves you for you. Looks fad in time.

Answer 8

Look, if he is healthy and happy, LET HIM BE!!!! When u first liked him, he was chubby!! LET HIM BE!!! Don't try to change ppl just because, I really don't like ppl like you girl! Accept ppl for themslves!! If it doesn't bother him, why on earth should it bother u. If you want a skinny guy, get someone else!

Answer 9

Do it discreetly by telling him you were thinking you two should start working out together. That way he has no clue it is because of him and you'll benefit from it too. And as a couple it will bring you closer together. My husband and I workout every morning together and it's nice. Try it it'll work!!!

Answer 10

Offer to cook dinner for him and when you guys go out do active fun things. Maybe you guys can get a Gym membership together.