Who to pick out a wedding dress with?

Question

I have a grandma that I love dearly, but she is the queen of guilt trips. Everytime I see her she says something about me not visiting enough or calling/doing stuff together enough. My grandpa is cool, he doesnt do that.

Well, I want to pick out my dress with my mom and my fiance's sister. My fiance's sister is really awesome, she can brighten your day and make ya smile...she's real excited that i'm gonna marry her brother.

I"m afraid that my grandma will find out and give me a huge guilt trip about why did I choose His sister over her. I dont want to offend anyone. I just get upset when she does her guilt trip thing. I just saw her a few days ago, and she made a snotty comment about me & my fiance not visiting her & grandpa in a while. We are only 15 min away, but we both work full time and need sometime to ourselves. They are gettng older (66 & 76 yrs). I feel bad not seeing them..yet I dont like the comments she makes all the time. Should I invite my grandma also or what?

Answer 1

shop with the ppl you feel most comfortable with.
invite granny to help you pick out something else. ask her advise on flowers or cake flavors or something. or have her help you shop for shoes/ jewelry and the veil.
this way you can include her w/o being uncomfortable when you are picking out your dress.
good luck!

Answer 2

Here is the thing, picking out your wedding gown should be fun. Another thing to consider is will she try to guilt you into the gown that SHE wants you to buy? Again, picking out your wedding gown should be fun. If I were you I would take my mom and sister in law. Tell your grandma that you took her to smooth things along with your new family. Grandma doesn't need to know that you prefered to bring your SIL. Since your grandma is going to make comments whether you bring her along or not, you might as well have fun shopping and take the heat later. All that being said you have to live with your family forever. Have you ever mentioned to your grandma that you're tired of the guilt trips and that's why you don't come to visit alot? I don't know if it will help but give it try. Maybe your mom or dad could talk to her. I definitely wouldn't take someone with me who makes snotty comments. By the way 66 is not that old, my mom is 61 and doesn't act like that, so age isn't the problem, attitude is. Good luck and remember shopping for your wedding gown is fun.

Answer 3

15 min away? Plan a trip with your fiancee to see granps and granny. Gramps can sometime feel left out and this is an important time in your life. Stop making excuses and make her happy. Be a lady and make this your first social trip as a soon-to-be married couple. That will ease her for a while, after that you an go get your dress guilt-free.

Also, give her something that will make her feel important and part of the wedding, such as, a craft keepsake for the wedding, the ring pillow if she is into sewing, or for her to knit something blue for luck. Give her a task for her to do, you can sure use the extra help and it will turn off the nagging button.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I think that if you did invite your grandma, she would be extremely happy about it. Have you talked to your mother about it yet?

It usually goes: Mother and Maid/Matron of honor, but if your grandma will be offended or hurt by it, you might have to suck it up and take her.

I am a frequent on theknot message boards - and contrary to what most say, "It is not just YOUR day, it is you and your loved one's day. If you want it to be your day, spend the day by yourself" Chad_n_Jared posted.

I am getting married in two weeks, weddings bring out some "character" in people, but don't offend someone just because it is "your day". That is a little selfish, and she IS your grandmother. I could understand your hesitation to invite her along, but inviting her might actually stop all the "whining" she does about never seeing her. Think about what good could come out of her coming.

In the end it is your decision who you bring, but I really suggest talking to your mother about it. She will give the most suitable advice. And if you do/do not bring her....you could always tell her "I told you so".

Good luck.

Answer 5

Take the people that make you feel happy. Going to pick out a wedding dress is fun but it can get hectic and nerve wracking too. After you pick it out though, it would be nice if you go to your grandma's house and show it to her, maybe even try it on for her. Make a big deal that you wanted her to see it first. Congrats and God Bless!

Answer 6

Bring the people that you want to bring. Two people are plenty for picking out a wedding dress. I don't think you need to invite your grandma. But do go to visit her another time.

Answer 7

I would invite your mother, your grandmother and at least your new mother-in-law to be along with his sister and

make a day of it, have brunch/lunch or afternoon snack with them all, while you are out trying on your dresses.

This will help them get to know each other and they will love being able to watch you model all those beautiful dresses!!!

It will be a fun day for all of you. And everyone will be glad they are included.

Ask them for their advice on marriage, it will be a great time to share!!!!!

Answer 8

Traditionally you pick out your wedding dress with your Bridal Party, ie. Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids.

Answer 9

Traditionally, you pick a wedding dress with your mother. Ahem, RD. The bridesmaid attire with the bridesmaids.

Answer 10

not your mother, until you find the one you want, i would take a friend or your wedding party, my mom found so many things wrong with alot of the dresses i picked out, it should be what you want not her.