This guy asked me out last nite and i said ok b/c i didnt wanna hurt his feelings. i dont wanna be with him cuz i dont like him like that- how do i break up with him and not hurt him?
2006-06-09 08:10:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to the person who said i dont kno him anywyas- we were friends before he asked me to be his girlfriend...i still dont kno wut to do! i only said yes because first of all it was 3:30 AM and second of all he sounded so excited and nervous about asking- i COULDNT say no. and now im stuck..
2006-06-09 08:22:59 · update #1
It's not for your looks, because you're beautiful. It's not for your personality because you're a saint. It's because me: I'm not ready for a beautiful saint right now, so I'm sorry, can we stil be friends?
2006-06-09 08:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you never actually defined a relationship with him, then you don't worry about breaking up with him.
Now if you don't like him romantically, then just go out with him and make sure that you draw the line about your intentions so that he doesn't have any strange expectations of the date.
It's OK to go out with someone you don't have feelings for but you must let them know. You never know, he may turn out to be one of your best friends, but just be honest with him.
If you tell him in advance, and he still wants to go out with you then you have already gotten over the hump. To make it easier offer to pay for your portion of the date just to secure your stance on the situation.
Now if indeed you and he have been seeing each other and he has some unreasonable beliefs about what's going on between the two of you, then what you do is just have a heart to heart with him and don't use any of the old cliches during the conversation. This should also be done before the date, so that he doesn't feel like you used him. Doing this over the phone is not an option, but if you feel like he's going to act a fool and make it a volatile situation, make sure you do it in a public place. It's better for your safety and to make sure that he keeps his cool.
2006-06-09 15:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by duncanchild7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you are not going to hurt this guy. Just do it right away, and make it a clean break! If you have to cut the tail off of a puppy, you do it once! Not an inch at a time. And besides, you only went out with him once, he'll live! Good Luck! :)
2006-06-09 15:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by fromdheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, you only "break up" with someone if you're already going out. But I get your point.... The answer is, since you haven't gone out with him yet, tell him some lame excuse and just walk away. You really don't owe him anything since you barely know each other. Or, lie and tell him you made a mistake when you accepted the date because you just got out of a really intense relationship and you're not ready to date right now. Then, go out with someone you really do want to go out with and make sure the other guy sees you. hehehe.... He'll get the point.
2006-06-09 15:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't accept a date if your not intrested please. You basically just led him on and now it will hurt his feelings more now that you said yes but you're gonna flake out on him. You don't have to break up with him since your not dating, just be honest and tell him you don't want to be anything more than friends, that is if you even want to do that. Just be honest with him, since you are already gonna damage his ego.
2006-06-09 15:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by The Mullet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you shouldnt have said yes bc it would of been easier to say noo at the first time bc he now thinks you do and you might get the repretation that u date boys you dont likee soo just tell him the truth to start and he wont be all taht hard
2006-06-09 15:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by ((LEE* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA the question of the century...but since he just asked you it's just easy to say that you don't see him that way, and that ur sorry that you can't help the way you feel. He'll get over it.
2006-06-09 15:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to hide your felling,express your felling to him or you can easily let him know that you have somebody in mind, and you can't double dating.
I think with this reason the guy will leave you and everybody will go on his own.
2006-06-09 15:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by roymark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly.. you can't not hurt him... but I will say the longer you wait to tell him the truth, the more you will hurt him in the end... be honest... and for future reference, don't ever be with someone because you feel sorry for them... It never! works out!
2006-06-09 15:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by paL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the truth. You don't have to be mean, just tell him "You're just not into him". You might want to pick up the book, "He's just Not Into You". Good luck and be kind, Sandy
2006-06-09 15:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by ysaanhdoyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋