all my life I've felt different, like I'm suppose to do something more and now that I'm about to be 21 in a week, I feel compelled to become a nun. I've been celibant for a while and I just feel that I should be married to god. I have a bf who's currently in Afghanistan, and I don't know how to break it to him. Can somebody help?
2006-06-09 08:05:27 · 16 answers · asked by Please ease my pain 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He's your bf, so he must already know how important your spiritual life is to you. Of course he won't be pleased, but I'm sure he'll understand if you tell him how you feel and just say straight-out that you've decided to take holy orders. Don't beat around the bush; in his situation knowing for sure, one way or the other, is important.
I have one question for you: How sure are you that being almost 21 and feeling compelled are good enough reasons, or the right reasons, to take the step you're contemplating? I'm not saying they aren't; I'm just advising you to be as settled as you can in your own heart and mind beforehand. If I were you I'd talk it over with your priest (I presume you're Catholic) and with the Holy Mother of the Order you intend to join.
Blessings to you!
2006-06-09 08:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
DON'T YOU DARE BREAK UP WITH HIM WHILE HE'S IN AFGHANISTAN! Listen, you've got the rest of your life to be a nun. The process takes forever. So go ahead and look into it. Tell him you've been thinking about it, but don't you dare break up with him while he's over there. After looking into it, make your decision and when he comes home talk to him about your decision. Realize that becoming a nun, you will never have a child of your own. You will never enjoy a home, a husband, children, etc. It's a big decision to make at 21. Christ calls us to be bold, yes, but make sure that this is really what you want (and what He wants) before you make the decision. And make sure you don't break up with your man while he's in Afghanistan.
2006-06-09 08:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by mrsdokter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can enjoy a fruitful productive Christian life without becoming a Nun. Don't throw away your life for nothing. There are plenty of happy well balanced Christian married ladies who enjoy serving the Lord in all different capacities. Commit it to the Lord and let him make the decision for you rather than simply do what you think is best as the Lord has a plan for everyone if they will only submit themselves to him.
2006-06-09 08:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by mandbturner3699 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being celibate at 21 is what you should be actually.
If you are going to break up with him, just tell him you are breaking up, but don't use god as an excuse.
If you wish to be a nun (an I am assuming you are catholic) then go to the diocese you live in and tell them you want to be a nun.
2006-06-09 08:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by knittingmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is important that you pray and seek the Lords guidance on this matter...whether you become a nun or not it is important to remain celibate...you said you have been for a while...does this mean for a while you were not? and if you were not have you repented to God, not through a priest..but on your knees before your God?..other things to consider is there is no where in the Word that God commands one who chooses to serve Him male or female to remain celibate....unless they are not married....a decision to become a nun requires a life of celibacy...which i believe is not according to Gods plan for us to go forth and multiply...its a tough decision that only God can give you the answer too...get in the word and in the closet and diligently seek Him..†
2006-06-09 08:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by implumbus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you be close to God without devoting your whole life and being to Him? You can be a very spiritual person and have a relationship with Him that is just as special as that of a nun's without 'taking up the habit' yourself. Don't you want to have children?
2006-06-09 08:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your life on a silly, made up thing like religion. Being celibate is no fun for anyone, and you'll look back and regret it after it's too late.
2006-06-09 08:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Karen_momof4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation on both sides. The only thing I can suggest is that you try to be as honest and open as possible. If this is truly the decision you want to make, the longer you wait to tell him, the harder it will become.
2006-06-09 08:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by billyidolrules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell him what your heart is saying to you. Be gentle and take into consideration his feelings (which I can tell you're already doing), but also stand firm. Don't let him talk you in or out of anything you want to do with your life.
Good luck!
2006-06-09 08:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by Joa5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you might want to start with a mission trip. Mission trips can help you fulfill that desire to make a difference, but it does not deny you having a future that can include the joys of motherhood.
2006-06-09 08:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by Bobbie Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋