should i have sex?

Question

i had a baby 3 weeks ago, my period had stop though, i know its not really a perod but, i want to make love to my man so bad, but i dont know if i should

i didnt have any stiches or any other problems

will it hurt?

Answer 1

Only if your doctor has released you to resume that activity. There are other ways to pleasure each other besides intercourse. You might enjoy exploring some of those other ways.

Congratulations on the new baby!

Answer 2

Question: I've heard that I should wait until six weeks after delivery to have sex, but I don't want to. Is there any harm in starting sooner?

Answer: There are good reasons for the recommendation not to have intercourse immediately following delivery, whether you've had a vaginal birth or a c-section. The uterus and cervix undergo significant changes during the process of delivering a baby, and they need time to heal. During this healing phase the lining of the uterus, especially the site where the placenta was attached, is susceptible to infection. Intercourse, douching, tampons, and anything placed in the vagina may introduce bacteria, and cause an infection. The flow of lochia, which is a sign that the lining is healing, can last from three to eight weeks. When the lochia flow is no longer bright red, it signals that healing is near completion, and it's probably safe to have intercourse again. However, if you're still healing from an episiotomy or vaginal tear, you'll need to wait longer still.

A vaginal laceration, rectal tear, or episiotomy that requires stitches can take three weeks or longer to heal, depending on the extent of the injury. If you attempt intercourse too soon, not only can you cause yourself pain, you can also disrupt the healing of the wound and possibly cause a rupture that requires another surgical procedure. I recommend waiting six weeks before having intercourse mainly because that's when most women go in for their postpartum exam. At that time your healthcare provider will make sure that your vagina and perineum have healed enough for sex to be safe and pleasurable.

For more advice on sexual activities that are safe in the first few postpartum weeks, click here.

Answer 3

If I were you, I would wait. Your doctor told you six weeks for a reason.

The vaginal tissue is very sensitive right now (especially if you had a vaginal delivery). I know all women are different, but the first time my husband and I had sex (we waited until the six week mark) it hurt so badly I wanted to cry. Also, with the fluctuation in hormones that are going on in you right now, women have a tendency to be "dry" down there, which can make it even MORE painful, even with a lubricant.

Just listen to your doctor and wait a few more weeks. It's not long...

Answer 4

If you didn't have stitches it should be fine if you're feeling up for it.Go slow at first and if it starts to hurt,stop and wait another week.If you had stitches,you will rip them out and I'm sure that doesn't feel good.Wait the 6 weeks like the doc tells you.I didn't have stitches,and I had sex 3 weeks after the birth.

Answer 5

Not if you have stiches. You will rip them open. Someone I worked with did that and had to go to the hospital. Talk about embarassing.

Answer 6

Call your Dr...Just know. that there are plenty of women that come back for their 6wks check and learn they are pregnant..So don't be ignorant and believe just because you are breastfeeding you can't get pregnant! It's best to wait, your body has been through major changes and by having sex does increase the chance of infection.

Answer 7

Remember 5 weeks Damn what it may hurt you are real fertile right now and WIL probly become pregnant again you haven't produced eggs in nine months

Answer 8

I think it's a bit too early for that. Actually, that is a good question to ask your doctor. You'll want to make sure you don't injure yourself. You really need to be as healthy as possilble to care for your little one. Good luck.

Answer 9

if you feel comfortable enough, try it, can't hurt. The docs SAY to wait 4-6 weeks, but there's not scientific evidence of why you SHOULD wait.

Answer 10

Your doctor can best answer your question, not us. I was able to make love by the third week, but everyone is different.