Me and my Grandma always get into arguments she makes me mad and I walk off to my room and I slam my door and find somethin' to do how do I keep from losin' my cool when she makes me mad??PLZ HELP!!!!!
2006-06-09 07:19:59 · 24 answers · asked by Sweetie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Older people just get to be more intense, more of what they already are. Teenagers are just trying to become more like adults. Sometimes the two don't mix.
It would help if you could sit quietly and try to figure out what you are doing that is pushing her buttons and then try to work on that. Did you leave a mess? Is she exhausted after a full day's work, having to return home to a house full of people that she has to clean and cook for? Is anyone helping her out or is she just old and grumpy? If she left you how would you take care of yourself? Would you feel bad?
If that doesn't work for you, try a sense of humor. You might not be able to say what you re really thinking to her because she might not understand you, but you can enjoy the comedy of the situation.
2006-06-09 07:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is your grandma raising you, or living with you? I know it's hard, but you really have to figure out how to not lose it with her. Try the old counting to 10 trick, or 20. And know that your grandma was young once too, she has a wealth of experience. I assume that you are a teenager? As teenagers everyone thinks they know it all, but they really don't. I know I always thought I was right, now that I'm older I look back and cringe at some of the decisions I made. Tell yourself how much you treasure and value your Grandma and how you would feel if something happened to her. Try listening to her sometimes, no matter how outdated or wrong her ideas seem. She will also be more likely to listen to you if you can keep yourself calm and steady and not go around slamming doors. Good Luck.
2006-06-09 07:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are going through, but at a certian point you just have to stop talking back, close your mouth, smile, nod, and just let her think you agree. I get unsolicited advice from my grandma all the time, and sometimes i want to freak out, just i just ignor it, say "she's been around alot longer thani have, shes old, she don't know whats coming out of her mouth, ect."
Avoid arguments, don't try to win, you won't, and when you start to feel yourself loosing you cool, say "hold on grandma, i need a few minutes to cool down. " and walk away before you get mad, breath, or talk a walk. And good luck-its training for the future...you'll get this from people all your life. learn to deal with it.
2006-06-09 07:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by MonicaRThompson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your age, honey. It is wrong to disrespect your grandmother, but your behavior is a normal phase of life - you'll grow out of it. Your grandma is older than you so she is wiser, but you do not believe that which leads you to become frustrated, stomp and slam doors... In a few years from now you will be more grown up and hopefully you will give your grandmother more respect. Think about my answer when you are old enough to agree with me. Good luck and I hope your emotions do not cause you TOO much teen-age grief.
2006-06-09 07:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by ouisy_01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im going thru anger management. They showed me a cool down method that helps for me, try it. inhale deeply thru your nose count to ten and exhale. thats just to calm down. They explained that keeping yourself busy is good medecine so clean up or do something. Think it over in your head. Is it really worth getting angry about? if not make sure your calm and talk with her, don't forget to explain how you feel and why. If it dosnt work out I suggest you go see a therapist. I swear by it.
2006-06-09 08:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her in a way but listen, then walk off (not as mad) and then try to see why she would say what she says and then you will relize that either she was wrong about everything (and all that matters is that you know that) or shes right about some of it and you need to chsnge things.
2006-06-09 07:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus!! Never heard about anyone who has such a terrible relatioship with their grandma. A useful thing in tense situation is trying to put yourself in the place of the other in order to understand his point of view and put an end to the conflict. It worked for me.
2006-06-09 07:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by caesareor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath and don't raise ur voice and don't talk back then after the argument is done go 2 ur room and do something that makes u think
2006-06-09 07:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple, remember to be thankful you have her.
Ask yourself what it would be like without her.
I learned alot about my parents and grandparents by listening to thier stories. It let me understand things about who they were and why they felt or believed the things they did.
Learn all you can from her before she is gone. It will make you even closer and even help you understand who YOU are.
Best wishes.
2006-06-09 07:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by blewz4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the old method-take a deep breath and silently count to ten.
Or you can leave the room before she makes you angry.
2006-06-09 07:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋