I've seen alot of questions pertaining to out of control children today. Why are people letting their kids run their lives today? Why do they let them act horrid and get away with murder? We are put here on earth to guide them, they are not born knowing right from wrong and are selfish from birth. Children thirst for boundaries....and honestly it sickens me when I'm out in public and I see a child slapping his parent but what irritates me even more is when they stand there and let them behave this way. My child would be put under my arm and taken to the nearest restroom for an attitude adjustment! I have never seen so many people catering to their little brats (not the kids fault btw) then I see today. I have three children and they are not perfect, but I love them and discipline them and others actually enjoy being around them. So what gives today??
2006-06-09 07:10:17 · 12 answers · asked by dixi 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tereval you are not protecting them you are setting them up for disaster and tragedy by letting them act like fools and get away with murder. Children should be able to fail/make mistakes and learn from them, but with mother hen hovering over them 24/7...and not putting her foot down when necessary is like throwing your child in front of a semi later on in life....
2006-06-09 07:19:02 · update #1
These same parents then post about their out of control teens...ummm since you never put your foot down when they were younger how do they figure that they will have a respectful young adult in their house come the teen years? That's bass ackwards thinking. Loving discipline and guidance begins from the time they are knee high to a grasshopper. Please wake up people! If you're toddler is out of control and you don't do anything they won't be any better as a young adult.
2006-06-09 07:24:39 · update #2
In the 60s and 70s, there was the whole "make peace, not war" movement. The young adults of that day got the idea stuck in their head that if discipline equaled abuse. As a result, they didn't discipline their kids as much.
So as a child of the 70s, many grew up without a lot of structure in their lives. They don't know HOW to discipline children now.
Add on top of that in the 80s, the movement of Child Protective Services who began making everyone think that a well-placed spanking was unadulterated abuse.
So now we're left with parents who don't know how to discipline at all, those who don't care enough about their kids (because they're too consumed with themselves) and parents who are afraid of being carted away to jail. Sad.
2006-06-09 07:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, not at all, in fact the discipline they give is out of proportion to the deed - they don't discipline regularly or consistently then when the kids go too far the parents completely lose their cool and explode. What parents are doing today is expecting children to raise themselves, they are not giving discipline because it's too hard - they want to be nice parents, be friends with their kids, not make waves, have a nice comfy family life. They aren't willing to do the hard work and have their child hate them for a few hours, which is what most kids feel when parents discipline. No parents aren't afraid, they are just unwilling. And then they blame everyone else for the kids misbehaving when they never had control to begin with.
2016-03-26 23:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, I agree with you. I have three little ones myself, and even though it's very hard teaching them and guiding them in the right direction, I wouldn't have it any other way. People think that a mom's job is to take care of everything for them 24/7 - but that's not the real world. I was spoiled by my dad growing up, and for a long time in my adult life I expected a hand out from everyone. I expected other people to do things for me. And I ended up learning the hard way that you only get out of life what you put into it. I was down and hit rock bottom with no job, no husband, a son, no money, evicted, and almost had to move into a shelter. Now I'm totally reversed, I have three kids, married, have a job, (a damn good one) a husband, a roof over my head, two cars and a normal life. But it took me four years to go from rock bottom to where I am today, and now that I've learned it, I wish my dad would have taught me the way the real world is. Even though I would never turn my back on my kids, I definately will not baby them and take care of everything for them. They have to learn how to depend on themselves and learn how to get themselves out of a sticky situation.
A self - taught person is the smartest!
I remember this quote I found, it goes:
"Some succeed because they are destined to, but MOST succeed because they are determined to."
2006-06-09 08:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes parents are afraid of what others will think of them if they are disciplining their children, especially in public. Strangers will sit there and make comments if kids are doing as they please and parents do nothing about it, yet some people criticize parents for being mean when they do see them taking action to control their kids.
I also think some parents would like their kids to just like them in general, and they don't know how to get along with them and set boundaries at the same time. I hope I do well enough with my daughter that she and I get along well throughout her life, but that she also respects me as a parent and realizes that I'm the boss when it comes to certain things.
Congratulations on the way you are raising your kids. I think it's hard to find that middle ground, but I believe it can be done, and that everyone benefits from things being that way.
2006-06-09 07:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you what i feel the same way. I worked in a restaurant and i wished i could take some of the kids who came in into the bathroom for an attitude adjustment.
But parents are scared to spank their kids. They only know how to say no now adays and im sorry but just saying no does not cut it if your child is not disaplined.
But i hear you girl. i will have no hesitation pulling out the belt if need be on my boys
2006-06-09 07:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by dido45dido 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are afraid. They believe if they spank their child they will go to jail. And if you punish your child by makinig them stay in their rooms cps will be knocking your door just because they think it's neglect for a child to be alone in their room unless they're sleeping. It's getting so crazy. Everyone is in everybody's business so that's why so many parents are scared. Time out don't work so I don't know how worst it's going to get.
2006-06-09 07:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by dreamee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there is a whole movement against diciplining children and people tend to follow the fads.
2006-06-09 07:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by I_am_me___ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you wholeheartedly. I think the problem is parents want to be their kids' pal. That will never work - not until they are adults themselves.
2006-06-09 07:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by Kasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their afraid is, that there is some weakness in them, that they are not able to get their children behave like their expectations.we are going towards inventions to make our life easy,forget to invent how the life is bestowed over us . why we are hear , what is our part to play.
2006-06-09 07:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by ravinder k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents like myself are worried that our children might encounter any kinds of tragedies....so we try to protect them in everyway possible
2006-06-09 07:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by tereval198912 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋