-Since my dad's passing my sister (age 10)
threatens to kill herself and my mom's new boyfriend too. She doesn't like him but I do because he makes my mom happy.......but like i said.....SHE HATES HIM....and she's breaking down.....please help......
2006-06-09 07:02:53 · 20 answers · asked by Beachey Boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
call family services and report your sister has lost her mind. And needs to be locked up.
2006-06-09 07:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sisters reaction is normal after the trauma of losing a parent. I would suggest to your Mother that she put her into some grief counseling. Your sister will hater every man your Mom brings home, no matter how happy the make your Mom, because they aren't your Father. She is dealing with some serious problems and because of that it can have a negative affect on her future relationships and your families happiness if she doesnt get some help immediately. She also could be dealing with some serious depression therefore her threats should not be taken lightly.
2006-06-09 14:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell her that killing her self will be selfish. Why do you have to be punished, you've lost your dad and now she threatning to take her self away from you, it's not fair. As for the moms bf. is there a real reason she doesn't like him? there all ways could be and she's too scared to tell any one. I don't know I'm just saying. You never know what's going through a 10 yr old's head. Try to make her see your ways tho that he makes your mom happy.
2006-06-09 14:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP IMMEDIATELY.
There is nothing anyone on here can say to stop her feelings. She needs to see a professional (even talk to the school guidance counselor about this!!!) to explore her feelings. The death of a father, especially if one is a daddy's girl, is devastating. I speak from experience. I completely shut down for a year and a half after my dad's passing (and I'm 28 now!) and it took a shrink to give me the strength to pull out of my funk.
I wish you blessings in your journey. Be there for your sister and talk to her. Do not let her languish in these feelings!
2006-06-09 14:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that no one can take you guys dad's place...it's hard to move on it always is but thats what your dad would want you guys to do...you need to take her aside with your mom and talk these thing over...I can tell that you are a very good brother and you worry about her...but maybe you and your sister should have a day out just the two of you and just talk...
2006-06-09 14:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I imagine you're older than her. That's usually how they'd handle it. Your mom plays a very key role in this, even more than you do. Your mom has to continue to reinforce to your daughter that its ok to feel uncomfortable, but its not ok to say hurtful things. As her older brother, you have to protect her and let her know its ok to like this new guy.
Your sister feels like she's doing your dad a favor by not liking him. I tip my hat off to you my friend for being very mature with this issue. I'm sure your mom thanks you for being so acceptive of this guy.
And your mom may want to look into some kind of child counseling right now for your sister cuz she still isn't handling your dads passing very well. It has nothing to do with this new guy.
2006-06-09 14:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by gregthedesigner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that your moms new boyfriend isn't trying to take your dads place, Its hard for kids to start liking someone new in there lives, my kids and I just lost my husband and its really hard on them. My Lil girl breaks down everyday missing her dad and she is only 3yrs old, now your sister is 10yrs old and she knows alot more and has more memories with her dad. It is hard, You just have to talk to her, as well as your mom. Tell your mom to have some alone time with her, without her new boyfriend, and just talk about your dad and the great memories you have of him. It's hard, I know, but she needs you guys to talk to her and just be there for her. Good luck. And sorry to hear about your dad....
2006-06-09 15:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by queen b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that btw is normal and i went thru something like that myself. first sit your sister down and let her know that
1. no matter what, no one will ever EVER EVER take your dads place.
2. no matter what, her Mom still loves and cares for her
3. Her big bro (im assuming thats you) loves and cares for her and will make sure that nothing will ever hurt her - for girls for the most part, Dad is the force against everything bad
let her cry, and then keep her busy, might take time and patience on your, and other family members part but keep her busy.
time will heal the wounds
2006-06-09 14:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by Circuitz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well try to find ways to make her happy help her throgh the rough times let her see how happy her mom is now that she doesnt have to be alone and in mourning just let her now that times may be rough but they will be ok soon and that none could ever replace the love your mother had for your father and no love can be greater than that
2006-06-09 14:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
console your sister in any way possible. do whatever she likes to do. if you guys and your dad used to go get ice cream every saturday, keep doing it [unless she insists she wants to stop.]
talk to your mom. tell her its too soon, that its hurting your sister. tell her no offense to the guy, you like the guy, but your mom needs to be thinking about your sister, too.
2006-06-09 14:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by perplepuppi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to talk to her? If you do she might realize that no can take your dads spot. Maybe if she talk to your moms bf she'll like him.She should know that no can take your dads spot. She really needs help. Help her
2006-06-09 14:37:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋