Please help ME!!!!!!!!1?

Question

Nothing seems to be going my way lately. I have cried myself to sleep four nights in a row. My parents are not understanding that I am 16 and need freedom! They wont give me that and they always yell at me for doing nothing. Also this guy who says he really likes me wont make a move or anything!! Its so annoying I just need some advice.

Answer 1

I know it's hard, but try to see your parents point-of-view. I'm sure that they are only thinking of your best interests and well-being.

Answer 2

You have to understand that your parents are doing everything they can to help you be the best person you can be. It is very difficult to be a parent. And, having a sixteen year old daughter is the most difficult time. The reason they are hard on you, is because they know more than you think they do.

As far as guys are concerned. If you really want to be with someone, you should make the first move. But, let me tell you that if you love yourself, people will kill themselves to be near you. You have a long and difficult road ahead of you. Try to enjoy yourself. It only gets more difficult from here.

Answer 3

Your 16...! I can relate, but I understand why my parents are doing what they are doing. They want to protect me and yes, it does get annoying but you have to sit them down and tell them where you are coming from. Nicely and politely, just be like, I need some freedom and even suggest somethings you'd like to do (dont go overboard) and maybe they'll give in a little. But about the guy, my secret is play hard to get... it drives the guys wild to think they dont have a chance or you could be the one to make that 1st move. Dont worry, things always have a way of working out.

Answer 4

Take it easy...your parents understand that you are growing up..but they may have a hard time letting you have the freedom you desperatly want.

Crying yourself to sleep every night only shows them that you're still a little immature and that they are doing the right thing. Adults don't flip out and cry all night when they don't get what they want. I don't mean to sound mean...but really ...they are doing it for your own good. They're trying to keep you safe.

Try to settle down and relax...Try to understand that you have 70 years ahead of you...Try not to get so upset...If your parents see you handling dissapointments like an adult...they may repay you with a little more freedom. After all...If you are acting like a mature young adult...maybe they'll treat you like one.

When you say "yell at you for doing nothing" ...do you mean you think you didn't do anything wrong and they yell at you anyway?? Or do you mean...you do nothing around the house and they yell at you for it?? Try listening very carefully to what they are saying, why are they yelling? Are you helping around the house?
Doing things around the house without being asked 100 times also shows maturity....try doing the dishes without being asked...just because. They'll probably pass out in disbelief.

It's little things like that that teach parents that their kids are growing up...Show them that you can handle life without trowing a temper tantrum and that you can help out without being begged and they may see that maybe you can handle some adult freedoms too.

Good Luck!

BTW...don't listen to the stupid people that tell you your parents can't control you when you're 18...they can if they give you a place to live and a car to drive and food to eat...Just try to remember...they don't do it to hurt you ...they do it to keep you from hurting yourself.

Answer 5

Make them understand that if you don't get any freedom now, when you turn 18 and they can't control you, you are going to end up going buck wild (even if you don't think this is true now, a good friend of mine ended up doing it and she is into the worst kind of stuff now). It's the catholic school girl syndrome.

However understand they're probably just trying to hold on to their little girl. Look at the news, or a pregnancy show, too many girls your age have too much freedom and are just as dumb as if they had not guidance at all.

As for that guy, be brave and make a move. At least ask him if he likes you or if he's just trying to keep you around as backup in case he can't get with another girl. If he doesn't give you what you're looking for, tell him to get to steppin' and find someone who really does care for you. Trust me, there are too many other guys out there to worry about one forever.

However, don't do anything foolish like sleep with him to make him or anyone to like you! It doesn't work.

Answer 6

All I can say is i know how that is! I am 17 and I have a baby that is 7 months old so I have no freedom and it has nothign to do with me having a baby. I would love to have a little freedom I know its my fault for having a baby this age but its not like i wont take her with i get to go to my friend lacys house like once a week. Which i love doing but its just a pain in the *** i feel for you. but one more thing enjoy it why you can enjoy the little freedom you get and besides your parents are probably jelous that your young and their not lol

Answer 7

hi there, i know you feel really fed up and trapped at the moment by your parents, but step back a little bit and try to see why they act the way they do with you. i am sure being a parent myself that they are only worried about you and want you to have the best possible up bringing. we worry, unfortunately, and if we didnt it would show we didnt really care. try to show them you understand why they are protective of you and show them you are responsible and i am sure you will see the difference and hopefully you can all make some comprises. and ask for the guy! guys are really slow at coming forward where girls are concerned. so just be natural and yourself and im sure eventually he will pluck up courage.... dont wish your life away. you only have one make the most of it and do the right things in life. i hope i havent sounded like a nagging aunt !! take care.

Answer 8

Boy do I remember those days. All I can tell you is to hang in there and think positive things will get better. I know how frustrating things can get too. As for the guy try to make the move on him and see what happens, he maybe scared or shy to pull a move on you.

Answer 9

How much and what kind of freedom are you looking for? You are only 16 years old. Do you mean dating? You should have some freedoms but you are also still under there roof and cannot take care of yourself yet. Talk to them about your concerns and let them talk to you about theirs and maybe you can come to some sort of agreement. Gl!

Answer 10

FIRST OFF... LET ME TELL YOU WHAT I KNOW FROM BEING IN THAT SAME POSTION ONCE I AM 18 YEARS OLD I USE TO BE ABLE TO GO OUT WITH OUT MY MOM TRIPIN SO IT WASNT BAD AT ALL INTILL SHE STARTED TRYING TO GET HARD IN THE HOUSE OR LISTEN TO MY SISTER AND TRY TO BREAK MORE RULES ON ME I SNUCK OUT MY WINDOW ALL THE TIME TO GO TO PARTIES CLUBS I HAD NO BUISNESS IN BUT I THOUGHT I WAS GROWN I HAD MY FAKE ID I DRANK ALL THE TIME GOT HIGH DID IT ALL I WOULD COME HOME SOOOO LATE AND JUST ACT LIKE I WAS SLEEPY FOR THE REASON NOT WAKING UP EARLY SO NOBODY KNEW BUT I DID AND I REALIZED I WAS WRONG I SHOULD HAVE LISTEN B-C THEIR WERE TIMES I ALMOST WAS STRANDED WITHOUT A RIDE OR I WAS COMING HOME TOO LATE LIKE FOR EX..... I WENT TO THIS CLUB WITH MY HOMEBOY I GOT SOOOO DRUNK THAT I KIND LET FUN TAKE OVER AND BY HTE TIME I WAS COMING HOME I DIDNT REALIZE THAT IF I DIDNT HURRY MY LITTLE BROTHER WAS GOING TO BE OUTSIDE WAITNG FOR THE SCHOOL BUS AND I WOULD OF BEEN IN SOME DEEP CRAP! BUT YOU KNOW THE WHOLE BOYFRIEND THING TOO WAIT ON IT IF HE DONT COME AROUND THEN HES PROBLEY SCARED OR NOT READY DONT RUSH IT AND REMEMBER FUN WILL ALWAYS BE THERE YOUR FAMILY LOVES YOU AND THEY WANT YOU TO BE SAFE JUST THINK OF WHAT ALL COULD HAPPEN WHEN YOUR NOT IN THERE CARE

Answer 11

My son is 17 and couldn't make a common sense decision if it bit him in the butt. He thinks the world should revolve around him and he gets put out when you ask him to do something.His 13 year old brother is just the opposite. Obedient, kind and helpful. Who do you think my wife and I are going to trust with "Freedom"!

And we do love both our boys!