ive been with my girlfriend for 8 months, on easter sunday she said she wanted time apart coz her oldest daughter gave birth and she was gettin so much hassle off her and her daughters boyfriend. so my girlfriend decided that she didnt want me to be there through it all and that her feelings where all over the place. ive been textin her and last nite we spoke for an hour on the fone she says that shes never loved anyone as much as she loves me, i tell her that i want to make my life with her and her kids, i do love her a heck of a lot and what she said last nite sounds like she loves me the same way she did from day one. wot shall i do?????? ive known her for about 5 years im 22 and shes 32 yeh a bit of an age gap but we spoke on the fone and texted eachother for 5 years before we met up.in those 5 years i had problems and so did she but we never spoke about it,it was like we werent bein ourselfs but we suppported eachother she went through a divorce and i sorted myself out. any advice
2006-06-09 06:49:49 · 16 answers · asked by stef 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
she wasnt cheating though, we spoke last nite and she said she still loves me like anythin i want to take her and the kids away from all that crap and start a life with her, she left her husband coz she got date raped ok in other words drugged then rape, she can trust me but feels like she can handle the world by herself but no one can
2006-06-09 07:08:59 · update #1
she dont want you no more trust me. been there they said that got 2 t shirts
2006-06-09 06:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't see in there where it says she wants time apart now? I mean if you talked on the phone last night for over an hour and you both said you loved one another? I don't see there is a continual problem here. I mean I would think that she needed to get her thoughts,her head together(would imagine her daughter giving birth, grandchild all of that)and now it seems she has, so why don't you just put it out there? Tell her what you want to do, and if you haven't done anything along the way to lose that trust you've built, I think you'll be fine. Unless she does have somebody else in the picture, making it a less clear cut picture for her mind and heart. However you said she hasn't cheated on you so I don't see what it is you are worried about. I would be patient, and if it is true love, it'll all happen. I know it's easier said then done, but that's what seems best here, patience, understanding and unconditional love. Good luck!!!!
2006-06-09 08:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the two of you are at two different points in your lives, Not to say that you will not end up in the same place.
I want to say to you I am truly sorry for her hurt and the pain she is going through right now, because she is going through some bad feelings in her life right now, and she do need you and your love & support right now more than she may realize.
Her family also needs her, (so she thinks) May be this will help you to somewhat see what it is she is feeling & why she's doing what it is she is doing.
She mave have started her family when she was very young and might not have been ready for all was needed of her so, now that she has been through a couple of very bad things and have grown from them, and have a lot on her mind and heavy in her heart, she may not be ready to tackle a brand new life with out completing her past life.
She will come around and your age diffrences has nothing to do with it, just give her some time, let her take care of the things she need to so that when you and her start your lives together she will not have no regrets from her past.
2006-06-09 08:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young. We all want to be loved. But you need to focus on developing yourself as a whole person before you get into a serious relationship. This older woman has lived half a life already and has a family. Don't you want to marry someone who is at the same place in life as you? Don't you want to marry someone who's the same age so you can grow old together and raise a family together? My advice is to work on your life and your career. Follow your dreams for your life and the right person will come along at the right time for both of you.
2006-06-09 08:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stress the importance of you guys standing by each other through it all, i mean what's the point in being in a relationship if you don't. She sounds confused and a bit of time is ok but if you really love eachother no one should run away from the other. Whatever she's going through will pass and if your a good guy stick by her, just don't compromise your own feelings to much.
2006-06-09 07:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are going through this. It seems to me that you love this woman dearly. However, she appears to have issues that she needs to deal with before she can begin a life with you. My suggestion is to give her that time; she will appreciate you for it in the long run. God may have someone else in mind for you and/or her. He knows best for us. If you believe in Christ, then you should know that. The best suggestion I have for you is to pray and pray daily. Her children seem to influence her life quite a bit and that is a good thing to an extent, but judging by what you have typed she seems to allow it too much. As I said before, PRAY...God will help you through it no matter what path lay ahead for you.
2006-06-09 18:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by angelbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sounds like a truly beautiful love you two have for each other.
Seems to me, from what you said, that she just needs time to sort out her life properly, but she does want to be with you.
Give her what she's asked for, but be sure you have let her know how serious you are before you give her space...make no room for confusion.
God bless.
2006-06-09 07:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by BizMomof3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's 32 and her oldest is giving birth, she must have had the daughter at 16 or younger (making her daughter 16 also).
if your story is true and you really are 22, why would you want all that hassle?
2006-06-09 07:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by akipooh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
playa, playa, playa. what in the hell are u doin?? take it from someone who knows. u do NOT want to hitch your wagon to some broad with kids. i understand love. i understand that it feels so right and all that b.s. she's trying to tell u nicely that she does not want to be with u in a nice way. believe me a 32 year old chick with kids does not push away a good catch because of her daughter's boyfriend. SHE DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH U. Got It?? i know it hurts. love hurts. you will be ok. get yourself together(haircut, clothes, job??, etc.) then get out there and find yourself a chick w/o kids you will be much better off. believe me.
2006-06-09 06:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what the problem is face to face, it's easier to be more open when not texting or on the phone. she's not telling you something, maybe she's getting pressure from her kids about the age difference. don't be to pushy about it though, you might push her farther away. after talking with her, if she still wants time apart, then it may be time to move on
2006-06-09 06:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give up mate your only young getting involved with somone with kid's isnt an easy ride go find youself somone without any hang ups once a cheat always a cheat she was cheating on her husband once she gets comfortable with you she will do the same to you, good luck,
2006-06-09 06:58:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋