I have been in a relationship with this guy for 3 years almost and I am 22. I have been dealing with the fact that his ex still lives with him because they are both broke and cant move. i asked him pver and pver and over to make her leave. I have asked him to spend the night with me every night since I have started being physical with him. He still wont. Do I have to tell him that I am totally in love with him and I need him to give all of himself to me or I am going to find someone else. Or should I just realize the fact that I am not important to him enough for him to start a life with me after all this time...?
2006-06-09 06:47:36 · 21 answers · asked by gigerninfo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He lives with his EX? LOL!!! you are an idiot. he is sleeping with her. he is still into her. he is lying to you. that's it.
2006-06-09 06:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by embigguns 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i understand your feelings deeply but if you already know his ex-girlfriend can't afford to move as she is always broke what is the point of asking him to make her move out. if you have asked him to spend the night with you on an every night bases and he refuses he may be refusing to do such as he just might feel your reading more into the situation that is there and maybe showing signs of being jealous and poscessive however i do feel that he should give you a valid reason in his own words why he won't come spend time with you if he still refuses hun i would look for someone else when you feel ready to
2006-06-09 13:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by precious52801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello? anybody in there? You have been dating and now sleeping with a guy that is living with another woman? One that he has been intimate with in the past? (and you really think has not been since?) In 3 years time if he can't figure out how to get his own place you need to dump him anyway. No you don't have to give him an ultimatum. Then, if he does move in with you (cause he obviously can't take care of himself) he will have an excuse to go back with bimbo #1. "She made me do it". Move on..fast.
2006-06-09 13:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by zoote3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I were in your shoes, it would be hard but I wouldn't stay with this guy. He obviously cares about that other girl if he wont make her leave and wont even spend the night with you! Thats crazy! Before I moved in with my fiance, he would never have lived with another girl while dating me and he would never say no to staying a night with me. I can understand that sometimes he probably wants to be in his house, his room, his bed, well then you should start sleeping there. Ask him to be honest with you and if he isnt than its a decision that you need to make. The most important question to ask yourself is Are you happy with him? Does he make you happy? Think about it.
2006-06-09 13:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by lauren_kate1121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. that is just WRONG! Could he move n w/ u? His x has no business living with him. Doesen't she have friends or parents or some other x? If he truely loves u, he would kick her out. That is not fair 2 u. If he still refuses to change this situation, he is not the guy 4 u. He should consider ur feelings 1st. Hope I helped.
Have a great day! :-)
2006-06-09 13:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Weasel♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hard... he still have feeling for her or he just feel sorry for her, but still he should understand your need. and guys usually don't like ultimatum... but i think in this case its the only way. if he feel the same for you as you for him he would do what you ask. because making the ex move out isn't a big thing. unless she own the place which is totally different situation where the guy should be the one that leave.
2006-06-09 13:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by pat_vatanakorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just started getting physical and yet you've been in a relationship with this guy for 3 years??
Something doesn't sound right...
Relax, you can't make anyone DO anything. It's called manipulation. If it's causing you so much grief then get out. When he lives on his own then start dating again, but don't MAKE him DO anything, resentment will grow.
Good Luck!
2006-06-09 13:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is playing head games with you , If he wants to be with you he needs to get his EX out of his house . And why wont he stay the night with you does he think it will upset the EX ,,, Hon you need to move on he doesn't sound good for you , he sounds like a player .
2006-06-09 13:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly kisses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question....do he and his ex have any children? They may be staying together simply for the children. Assuming they have no children, you need to give him an ultimatum. He is trying to have his cake and eat it too, and that's just not right. Tell him how you feel, both about him and about his living arrangements, and see what his response is. Tell him he needs to make a choice - either you or her. That will tell you where is heart lies.
2006-06-09 13:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by casaudiotc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty i think that your bf shouldn't be living with his ex if he's with you especially since you don't know if there's still stuff going on with them. I don't know if that is the situation but maybe he doesn't think of you as highly as you would like him to. Plus i think in a way he's disrepecting you for living with another girl and dating you at the same time.
2006-06-09 13:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by halfpint8585 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you say you asked him to spend every night with you, do you mean asked him to move in with you?
why does his ex have to leave the place, does he own it?
either way, sounds like he has a problem.
2006-06-09 13:51:42 · answer #11 · answered by handydaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋