my boyfriend's bestfriend is trying to flirting with me when my bf is not around. i feel so unconfortable. my bf doesn't know about this yet. how should i tell my bf? should i tell my bf about this. any advise? what should i do? i'm scared if i tell my bf about that he'll think i'm tryin to break his friendship with his bestfriend. or maybe he'll think i'm the one who want to flirt with his bestfriend.. what should i do? my brain starting to hurt.. ouch....
2006-06-09 06:40:33 · 38 answers · asked by Honey Gee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are in a trusting relationship with your boyfriend, then you need to tell him what his best friend is up to....if your bf doesn't believe you, then you need to end your relationship.
2006-06-09 06:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by leecarh 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't be there when your bf isn't there. Tell the guy that you know he is such good friends with your bf he would not really flirt with you, but that the kind of teasing he does makes you uncomfortable. Give him a chance to change his ways. Make sure that you aren't playing along with his flirtations by laughing and such at his advances. If he doesn't stop then you have to decide if you can live with it or not. If you tell your bf, it will cause a fight between him and his friend, between you and your bf, or between you and his friend. Most likely in the end he and his best friend will still be friends.
2006-06-09 06:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by zoote3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid spending any time with your boyfriend's best friend. Even if you are all in the same room; get near your boyfriend and make sure you make it obvious that you have no feelings for your bf's best friend. Be nice but make sure you don't smile too much or the guy will think you're flirting back with him. I've had that same issue happen to before. If it gets sort of crazy, like he continues flirting with you; let him know you don't appreciate that kind of disrespect and then tell your boyfriend. If your boyfriend loves you; he shouldn't get mad at you for saying the truth.
2006-06-09 06:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Lily♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your bf. Tell him. Approach the subject carefully though you don't want any reamifications. Ask him if he thinks his friend is seriously interested in what type of women or if he is a flirt, and then determine if it is just innocent flirting or if he is really interested in you. if he is you need to tell your boyfriend about his advances, before your bf notices the tension building between you and he, or between you and his friend. There is a time and place for every conversation just choose that time and feel your wawy through thr truth with your bf. If he accuses you of something thean you really need to have this situation out inthe open.
2006-06-09 06:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by ddj120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's what u do. your tell your bf u want him to hear something. u make him promise not to speak until after u hang up. then with the both of u on the line u call this best friend and say: "hey, i would really appreciate it if u stop disrespecting me and my bf by being sneaky and approaching me when he's not around. are u willing to ruin your friendship with him just for a fling with me??"
then u just let the other guy talk. this way your bf can hear it for himself.
2006-06-09 06:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the guy. Tell him that his comments/advances are unwelcomed and that they make you feel unconfortable. Also, tell him than you are obiulsy in a relationship and that you are not going to disrepect your boyfriend and neither should he by pursuing you. Tell him that if he doesn't stop then you won't have a choice but to tell your boyfriend. That should cool him off. He is probally tell you that he was not doing anything. Have a withness when he is making advances and you putting him in his place.
What a situation! Good luck!
2006-06-09 06:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same issue when I was dating my husband. His friend would come over unannounced when my boyfriend wasn't there. I told him to stop repeatedly in the nicest way I could. It got to the point where I had to tell my boyfriend that his friend was making me feel uncomfortable. I told him about the unannounced visits and telling him to come back when my boyfriend was home. My boyfriend then kept a close eye on him and actually caught him trying to kiss me one night and told him that anyone who would disrespect him like that in his own home is no friend of his. Of course after a few weeks everything was calm and they're able to be friends again but I'm still uneasy around him sometimes. So just try to be honest, just have your boyfriend aware of it so maybe he can see for himself.
2006-06-09 06:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Cantrelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy to stop. If that does not work, tell your boyfriend. If you threaten the friend that you are going to tell the bf, he might tell a different story to the bf before you get to him, and you could be screwed.
2006-06-09 06:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, what u do is you tell his bestfriend to stop it. and stop it now. tell him you are not interested. if he doesnt listen then u talk to your boyfriend. now if your boyfriend takes his friend side then ..... he doesnt trust u. but definitely let the best friend know first and then your boyfriend. make sure the friend wont go behing your back to tell your boyfriend that you are the one putting moves on him. its a sticky situation but you can get out of it. talk, talk, and if nothing works ask your friends to help you. maybe a third party perspective will help. especially when they are there when the friend is flirting with you and they can take your side if you need to tell your boyfriend about it
2006-06-09 06:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by montana_leather_thong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to remember the fundamentals of the relationship: trust. honesty. openness.
think of it this way. his best friend wants you. you are not returning his interest. he might just turn around one day and lie to his best friend/your boyfriend that you were the one flirting with him.
don't give him the time and opportunity to do that. go straight up to your boyfriend and tell him how uncomfortable you are and the situation that is arising without you being at fault.
if he is good to you, he will listen and then have to decide what to do. would he want to keep such a 'best' friend?
if he is bad to you, and doubts you and accuses you, you will then have to decide if YOU want to stay in a relationship with such a 'boyfriend'.
good luck
2006-06-09 06:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by happy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i would tell the friend to leave u alone and i would be honest with your bf a real friend would not do that. set the friend up if u have to to prive to your bf u are telling the truth honesty is always the best way to go
2006-06-09 06:45:17 · answer #11 · answered by bonnie_clyde_4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋