most of my close friends ar pairing off and thinking marriage, i am the only one who is not dating at least, they invite me to stuff with all of them, but i often feel like a third wheel - and they always 'feel bad' i'm not in a relationship and try and give me advice but it gets old - ya know? any suggestions?
2006-06-09 06:30:56 · 23 answers · asked by smiley21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are happy with not being in a relationship, tell them that. Tell them you are just not interested in dating at this time and while you appreciate their advice, you are happy as you are. I'd also see about hanging around a bit more with people who are single like you as there will be less pressure to settle down in that group of people.
2006-06-09 06:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it get old. It's not gonna stop - people in relationships - good relationships - will ALWAYS want other to "be just as happy as they are" and will have ALL SORTS of advice to help you (poor little thing) to get there. Water off a duck's back, dearie-dear. You just have to sit on your side of the booth and take it. Smile, say "really?" and "So THAT'S your secret!" but don't engage them with "what do you think?" and "I'll try that." No need for you to defend your lifestyle (even if temporary; even if permanent) - all you need to do is to show them that you are happy where you are in your life at the time they think you should be somewhere else. All you really need to do is the things that make you happy as a person.
2006-06-09 13:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont feel so bad... im goin through the same thing too only i AM in a relationship and our friends keep askin us when were gonna get married or have kids.. the thing is, were just not ready... same with you (if it may be) tell them youre not ready yet for a relationship and just let them know that youre tired of hearin it.. try to only go out with them when theyre not with their signigicant other so you wont feel like the 3rd wheel.
2006-06-09 13:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by mony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i'm a 3rd wheel (5th, 7th, and 11th) too!! i am not caring too much. some of my girlfriends are with complete knobs and i am confident in my singleness as i know i haven't 'settled' so far, like many people have. many of my friends are talking marriage and i'm just going to school and i haven't even dated in over a year. but my only suggestion is be happy that you aren't giving in to every man thrown your way just to relieve the awkwardness of being single. who really cares? i don't anymore. i'm worth much on my own, and when my cousins/friends ask how many are attending their weddings, i say "one" and i am actually comfortable with it now. someday i'll marry, but i'm enjoying things right now.
2006-06-09 13:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have very dear friends and family in a similar situations.
I know how frustrating it can be from first hand knowledge also.
Here's how I handled it:
--people who bugged me too much about it, I politely asked them to leave me alone
--friends who were blessed with good relationships, I made a decisionto rejoice with them and not to be jealous
Not long after that last one got married, I was blessed with a friendship that blossomed into romance and then into marriage
Also, I did listen to my friends' advice when I was single, and most of it helped me to prepare myself for this relationship. (I have very goodand wise friends.
2006-06-09 13:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by BizMomof3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't bother you that you are not 'paired up', don't worry about it. Find some more friends that are not into it yet. There are a lot of people that just want friends to hang with, not relationships.
2006-06-09 13:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by zoote3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many people make the mistake of rushing into marriage because there friends are doing it. dont feel bad, your time will come. Dont make yourself nuts over this crap.
Now take two of Deez and call me in the A.M.
2006-06-09 13:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like yourself and the rest doesn't matter. Listen to their advice and do whatever you want after they give it. Be comfortable in the group. If they're your friends it hardly matters if you have a partner. It's all about timing.
2006-06-09 13:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by gibwerg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll meet the right man at the right time! just be patient and be ready for when he comes. you'll know when he comes, and you want to be ready! you wouldn't want him to come and you be in some relationship! give it some time. i know that it's hard but it's worth it. follow your heart and remember that there is no harm for a couple of blind dates before settling down! god bless and good luck. have a nice day! : )
2006-06-09 13:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by lil_bit_a_evrythang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy with your life then who cares what they say. When they try to give you advice just simply inform them you are happy where you are in your life and you don't need a man to define who you are.
2006-06-09 13:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋