i would like to know if rebounding after a fight in a relationship is really quickly is a good idea?

Question

what i am trying to say is that my boyfriend and I fight and then i am mad for like a day and next day i am not anymore. he can hold a grudge forewer. with me its like i cant stay mad for long, but also its like i am impersonal(?) maybe, i feel no regrets, no second thoughts, and its hard for me to go back to thinking about the conflict. plus, i almost never cry.... does anybody out there feel like me?

Answer 1

As long as you are resolving the issue instead of avoiding it, there is nothing wrong with that. However, if you're just giving in so that you're not fighting, well, its not going to work out.

Answer 2

I don't have the same issue, but I don't think your problem is particularly unhealthy. It's good that you don't dwell on past arguments. Some people let things continue to bug them, and it just ends up wearing you down. Not crying isn't necessarily a bad thing, either. I DO cry, a lot... at just about anything... sad movies or stories, or if someone yells at me... it's just how I let my emotions out. Not everyone is like that, though. Make sure you do have an outlet for your strong emotions like pain, sadness, and anger, rather than keeping them inside forever, but being able to forgive and forget is usually a pretty good quality to have in relationships.

Answer 3

To give you my opinion me and my fiancee fight alot also.She will get mad at me and slam a door in my face but like an hour later she will be all lovey dovey with me.Me if I fight with her I just kind of shrug it off and we make up quicker.I do not hold grudges neither does she.If he holds grudges then there might be more there than meets the eye as in he might secretly be pushing you away from him.Should talk it all out

Answer 4

It sounds like you have a fairly healthy attitude, but I'd worry about his. Holding grudges for extended periods of time isn't a way to make a relationship work.

I'd also be concerned if you are "rebounding" so fast because you could be causing fights about things you don't care about... if it is that easy to drop, it might not be that important and you could be fighting just because you like to fight.

Answer 5

yup...i am a Taurus and once we get the fight over with i am over it...my bf is a Scorpio and he has a much harder time letting go....i just try to go about my day as pleasantly as possible and try to avoid the topic that caused the fight and a few days later all is well.....i dont cry much either and i try not to cry in front of him as it affects him greatly and i am not trying to force him to agree with me just 'cause i cried....