I love him so much, but we have no much animosity between us from things that he has done to me, and things I have done to him.
Should I just deal with all the hurt and move on with him, or without him? its so hard because we go like 3 days with being happy and then all of a sudden it all crashes down and makes me have an emotional breakdown. I ahve never felt like this because it hurts so bad to think I will nver have him again in my life...
2006-06-09 06:03:26 · 27 answers · asked by gigerninfo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm adding this to my watch list because i'm in the EXACT same situation. Hope u get help.
2006-06-09 06:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by **LeXi** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really talk to him about how you feel. I understand the feelings you have for each other but you both should find a way to work things out. If it seems as if it hasn't changed after you both sat down and discussed this then it would probably be best to see other people. Especially when you say you know he is not good for you. It is better to leave him and be hurting then to feel hurt ALL THE TIME while you're with him. Because when you leave him, it will hurt but it will end!
2006-06-09 13:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Lily♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going through the same thing and all my family and friends are telling me to leave the hurt will not last forever. I think you and i may be using this relationship as a security blanket. Its safe we know about it and we are comfortable with it. But we long for something different and more. And you know like i know the relationship will probably never go anywhere just idle. You need to make a decision like im gonna have to move on or be miserable. but i know how you feel cause i love him so much but i know hes not the one.
2006-06-09 13:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM!!! Oh my god girl, i was in that situation before, then i married the loser and had 3 kids with him. I thought i loved him too. But when i look back at how he was i think that it was not love. I have NO idea why i was with him.
I finally got up the nerve to leave him, now i'm dealing with legal battles as far as the kids are concerned. GET A GOOD MAN!!! No boys. boys will break your heart. Are you a teenager? If so, then you probably are just attracted to the bad boy image. GET OVER THAT QUICK!!! if you don't, you will regret it for the rest of your life. I wish i had.
Trust me.
I'm now married to a real man who works and takes me of me and my kids. Still wishing that i had left the loser a long time ago!!
2006-06-09 13:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel, i've been in a similar situation a couple of years ago. Both of u have to HEAL. U both have to sit down, and for once try to control your temper. don start or prolong a fight. I think u WANT to heal.what u need to find out is if HE wants to heal too.If not..then u have to let him go coz he's not worth it. Take a trip out somewhere..spend some quality time together..try to do something to show him u love him and want him.. u can move on from this bad point in ur life..believe me..i did:) there's hope for all of us.
2006-06-09 13:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by princess h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he a good man? because if he is you two can work out your problems. but if he is still a bit childish and causes much fuss, (whether or not you are willing to work on this relationship), you won't be satisfied no matter what. if he's a good man and he's worth it and you two are finished with taking stabs at/hurting eachother, then keep him and try to make this work. but if there is still immaturity and unforgiveness lingering, you should split and work on yourselves inside so the next relationships you have will be healthy.
2006-06-09 13:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a challenge that you need to recognize may result in no one can become a winner in...Such a relationship, Love & hate, can become more on the hate side to the point your in it for the arguement sake...and it becomes a who is worse than who situation....it already sounds unhealthy...I'd suggest cutting your losses and get out of this relationship before it leaves you emotionally scarred.
2006-06-09 13:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger and disagreements are part of all relationships. However, if there is a lot of verbal abuse, or any physical abuse, you need to bail out. If your spats are about superficial things, then you need to discuss them when you two are not angry. If you start getting angry, or he does, separate until you calm down, then try to deal with the problems.
2006-06-09 13:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should just dump him. 1st try and find out what the problem really is. If you don't trust him maybe y'all should talk about it and see what type of answer you can come up with or go and get dating counseling. Because I know how it feels to love someone you don't trust.
2006-06-09 13:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by Davenport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Do you like to torture yourself? You have an emotional breakdown almost weekly by the sounds of it, and you are ok with that idea? Why don't you just beat yourself while your at it.
2006-06-09 13:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling you have to lose something to get something,if you are really in love with him then you need to adjust this does not mean that you do only the adjusting work and he enjoys life even he needs to understand that a relation needs to be mended from both sidesand if he fails to understand this then darling you need to move on.in life you meet different people and in this wide world there will be MR.RIGHT waiting for you.
2006-06-09 13:11:23 · answer #11 · answered by cute_manasi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋