My dad has depression issues and he's a drugatic, he takes everything out on me.. what do I do????

Question

My dad has a lot of depression issues and he needs to see a physciatrist or something apparently and he won't go. He's a serious drugatic and alcoholic. My dad takes everything out on me (not physicaly) and I tell my mom everything and she always gets mad but won't do anything about it, she just says he's a jerk and all. He finds every possible way to ruin things that are fun in my life on purpose because he gets mad at me all the time for nothing and those are my punishments.. its stupid. My mom and dad alreadly went to court for full custody of me but that was when I was 8 or 9 and both parents were bribing me and so i told the lawyer that i wanted to spend time with my dad also. That was all becuz my dad was being super nice and getting me anything i wanted, if i had the chance to go back i would change everything and i live with my mom. i don't know what to do, at one point he was starting to drive me to suicide becuz of everything and all the stupid fights.. what do i do? help plz

Answer 1

Custody decisions are never final- if there is good reason for a change, the court will look at it and it sounds like, in this case, there is no question your dad would lose custody, parent privilege, as well maybe even visitation time.
Besides that, make sure you talk to someone- because if you've already been suicidal, I am afraid you might follow your dad's patterns of drug abuse.
Also, I disagree that you need to be there for your dad and that he doesn't know what he's doing. Your dad needs to be there for _you_, not vice versa. And, also, no matter how high a person is, they still have awareness- I have been messed up myself on drugs, so I know this.
Please talk to someone at your school, or call an anonymous 1-800 number for counseling.
You can also call CPS if it's that bad, although I know that could be difficult to do to your family. But if no one's looking out for you, you have to do it yourself.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Here is a real answer. go to the authorities and turn him in. Go to a clinic or the court house and ask for help with your father. Explain the situation and that your scared to live there anymore due to his addictions. There are some very good programs they can get him into to help him. but remember it's gonna be a long hard road not only for him, but for all of you. You, and your mother will have to support him in his rehab. that's the only way he's gonna get clean and stay clean. Even if it means that he gets mad at you and calls you every name in the book. that's only the drugs and alcohol doing that. Especially during the detox period. Good luck and keep me posted on your progress.

Answer 3

You talk to a trusted member or your family an aunt or uncle and tell them you have to be removed from the situation.
Ask them to take the legal steps to get yourself out. If no one will help then call the department of child services. A counselor there can help you get this worked out.
I wish you the very best.

Answer 4

Look at the big picture, honey. You've got to get out of there as soon as you can so start making your plans. Looking forward to a new lifestyle will make it easier for you now, because you know that it won't be forever. Harden your heart and don't let thier lousy behavior get to you. There are some happy places in this world and you should find one for yourself ASAP!

Answer 5

Please please please get help from someone, anyone! Talk to a school counselor, a church official, an adult you trust, heck, even your family doctor. The important thing is you recognize the problems, and that you weren't afraid to ask for help. Keep on talking about the whole issue, talk to the parents of a close friend. I hope you find some peace in this issue. Maybe you can let us know how things are going after you can get some help?? Good Luck!!

Answer 6

actally, you can go back, just get the case number, explain the situtation to the judge, and he'll fix everyting up. But that's about all you can really do. Don't kill yourself, and don't run away, just try to find a way to get to that courthouse

Answer 7

Call the social services department in your area and ask to speak with a caseworker. Explain to them the situation, and see if they can get involved and help you. Good luck.

Answer 8

Your mum can change this. She can go to a thing at the courthouse called Dispute Resolutions, and tell them she is concerned for your safety with his depression/drug use. They will NOT allow you around him unsupervised.
Good luck.

Answer 9

Your dad needs to go and get some help. He should not be taking his problems out on you. You did nothing wrong.

Answer 10

Be batient with him and ask for professional help. He does not know what he is doing, so I hope you be the father and provide guidance. Yes, outside help is the best for both of you.