My friend's children do that to her all the time. I feel sorry for her, she always looks like she's about to cry.
2006-06-09 04:36:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
depends on the childs age, but i would tell them that it isn't nice to talk like that. say how would you feel if i were to die, etc... make them feel bad for talking like that.
2006-06-09 04:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica S 3 · 6⤊ 3⤋
i dont blame her that would crush me. be how old are her children? if it were a younger child, though it is hard, i would just chalk up to them trying to figuer out all there emotions and that they need to be taught a better outlet. Older kids do it to hurt there parents because they cant have there way and feel like they been hurt. It is not right or fair i know, tell her to hang in there and remind her that her children do love her, but i think something has to change in her home. Sorry not more help but with out more info it is hard. Best of luck to her and you!
2006-06-09 05:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by AussieMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to tell them when they tell her they hate her. " I'm sorry you feel that way, but I love you very much." The person that said that there are some things that you have to overlook as a mother is right, Kids are going to say stuff to get their way. Sometimes they go right to the throat. I'm sure you have heard this or even said it as a kid; I'm not going to be your friend if you don't do this, or I'll hit you if you don't do that. If they don't get their way, hurtful words usually come out.
2006-06-09 05:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Moon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should not have to put up with that - that's awful. She can always just smile, say "that's fine", pack up some of their clothes, put them in the car and take them to someone else's house (relative or friend). Take their stuff to the door and tell the person (with the kids right there) that they no longer want her as their mom and that they can live there from now on. I don't know about her kids, but mine bawled like babies and have never said it again.
2006-06-09 05:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa! i cant believe all of you who would just let that go!
personally i think that is an awful thing to say, i admit that when i was a teenager and going through that phase, i would say some things that i now regret. however, i was disaplined for it.
those kids need to be taught better. that is unacceptable fro children at any age to speak to their parnets that way.
i can honestly tell you that mine have never now will ever, speak to me in such a way.
they may be angry at me, but they have to learn how to control their anger. and talk to me a mature as they can for the age that they are.
2006-06-09 04:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by jenzen25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, it's somethign tha you have to overlook. There are some times that my mother gets on my nerves. Almost every time i call her she gets on my nerves. Sometimes I'm rude to her. But at the end of the day, I know she loves me and that she will always be there for me.
2006-06-09 04:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by FY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how old they are. If they are old enough to understand and know exactly what they are doing, she should tell them they can live as if she were not there, and then stop cooking, cleaning, giving them money for stuff, etc for them for a few days. Or offer them the option to go into foster care, if they have no appreciation for what she does for them.
2006-06-09 04:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by innocence faded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just something kids tell their parents. I did it growing up. It just happens. She should just remind her kids that they won't hate her forever, and that if they hate her for a "good reason", they'll appreciate it later. I love my mother, and although i told her "I hate you" when i was but a child, it was only a phase. If she's doing nothing but being a good mom they'll get over it.
2006-06-09 04:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lorelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a phase. Dont worry about it, the child didnt get what she/he wanted and they're making whoever feel bad about it. Tell the mother, she needs to get more stucture, and tell her child who is the boss, before that child really is the boss.
2006-06-09 04:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by lucki_charmed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I'm kind of a hard core, but i would tell them that they wished i wasn't here so let them do for themselves for awhile and remind them what they have said. for example if they want to eat or need some clothing make them do for themselves for awhile. i think they will appreciate your presents after about a week of that.
2006-06-09 04:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by bob b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That same thing used to happened to me, one day what i did was that i ask my mom if she can stay with her for a week so i took my daughter one day and let her stay with her grandmother for a week without seeing me or talking to me over the phone, the second day she was calling me because she wanted to come back home with me because she missed me, so since that day she never said that before.
2006-06-09 04:44:57 · answer #11 · answered by sweetmag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋