I am just way to nice and I keep talking to this guy and have let him take me out a few times (hey free food, drinks and movies) and kissed him....I am just feeling NOTHING there.....he calls and we chat and then he goes "so what time am i picking you up tomorrow?" and THAT pisses me off.....I haven't even said I would go out with him or that I wasn't doing something else!
Would it be mean and chickensh*tty of me to tell him I started seeing someone?
2006-06-09 04:34:32 · 24 answers · asked by McRach 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah i have tried all that......telling him i wasn't interested and all i gottta try it again i guess
2006-06-09 04:43:43 · update #1
call the cops and tell him to f off
2006-06-09 04:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by firez72 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, you're not being "too nice", you're being a mooch. Paying for "free food, drinks and movies" with kisses or booty is never appropriate. It aint free then because you're kissing someone you don't even like just for the fact that he took you out, fed you, quenched your thirst and entertained you. Secondly, honesty is truly the best policy, tell him that even though you think he is a wonderful catch he is not the wonderful catch for you. Don't be mean to him, you'll scar him. As for his presumptuousness, (i.e., the 'when am I picking you up tomorrow'), if he doesn't go away after your honest speech then tell him in as bitchy a tone as possible 'who said you were', don't try to stay friends with him and find someone who will treat you well, feed you, quench your thirst and entertain you all the while giving you the much needed fireworks you desire.
2006-06-09 11:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't go out with someone for "free drinks, food and movies". That's how you landed in this predicament. This poor guy has been led to believe he has a chance with you and you feel nothing for him.
You should try letting him down gently saying that you just aren't interested in a relationship. You could also tell him that you aren't feeling any chemistry but you should also point out his good qualities and apologize for wasting his time. OR you could just let him see you with no make up on, stringy hair and maybe even picking your nose, just gross him out. That will probably do the trick.
2006-06-09 11:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can start by getting caller id its very nice then you don't have to answer the phone call and if he try to catch up to later and ask you whats up tell i am very Bessy to day and tomorrow and the rest of the week sorry looks like we cant have fun lol and then if he still don't get the point make it a point and be clear but try not to hurt his feeling or you could talk to him when he calls and tell him this is not working out for you and that you want to move on and you don't want to hurt him and he could see who ever he wants just not you any more cause your not available or just tell him not ready for this kind of relationship you want to try stay single for a wile I don't know i would be able to tell him i started seeing some else cause even though your not to gather that's kinda like cheating besides your not right to use people for stuff what comes around goes around
2006-06-09 11:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe telling him that you're seeing someone else would be more chickensh*tty. Just tell him that there's no spark, no chemistry, no nuttin' about the two of you. But tell it in a nice way, I mean, don't be too mean and all. Trust me, he'll get the point.
2006-06-09 11:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by kristian121989 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that your not looking for a serious relationship right now. You don't need some one clingy. I was in this situation where it seemed to be good for a little while see each other on Friday, but then he would get upset cuz I didn't call him right back even though I was working and didn't get till 5. but any who, I would definatly put a stop to it before he gets too serious, then it will be just big drama
2006-06-09 11:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be mean and wrong. You just need to be honest with him instead. Tell him that you have had a great time with him but that you feel it is important to let him know that you have decided that you and him can only be friends. Anything but the truth and he will eventually find out and then be really mad. Hopefully he will respect you for at least telling him the truth.
2006-06-09 11:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself: Would I want someone who didn't like me to take advantage of me, and then when the time is right, to dump me on the spot via a big fat lie(i.e."I'm seeing someone.")?
Just tell him. He's a human being. You're not married. He'll find someone else, better maybe, and he'll tell his new girl all about you and how you used him for "free food" and stuff.
Aria
*The illnovelist*
2006-06-09 11:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by illnovelist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're just not interested. If he doesn't listen, tell him you started seeing someone and get another male friend or a brother or a male cousin to hang with you in case you run into him. If he still won't leave you alone, call the cops. That's stalking, and stalking is illegal.
2006-06-09 11:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so he thinks your dating.... you can do one of three thigns....
1. dont answer the phone
2. be honest and let him know what you let us know
3. next time he asks what time to pick you up tomorrow, tell him that you can't because you have a date... he will freak out and probably get all sad, but im sure he will leave you alone, or at least a door will be opened to discuss how you feel..... personally i think it would be really funny!
but good luck!
2006-06-09 11:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't want to be with him then just tell him and don't lead him on an aimless path. He will get the message and if he is still persistent then yes you might have to be a bit blunt with him
2006-06-09 11:36:46 · answer #11 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋