we have been together almost a year and i stay with him no matter what he does.but now i want to get out and he won't let me.
2006-06-09 04:29:55 · 22 answers · asked by glamorousdiva92 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you never should stay w/ someone who hurts you..talk to someone..you shouldn't stay in that relationship...!
2006-06-09 04:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by ~honey~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is a sociopath or a an abusing narcissist. It will only get worse. You can still love him, but you don't have to stay with him. You need to go to counseling to get your self esteem up along with confidence in yourself. Don't believe anything he says, he's probably lying to get you to stay. Prepare your self to leave if you live with him, but do the same if you don't. If you have children, make sure someone can pick them up from school if you can't and have some money saved up in a new separate accnt. Him not letting you signafies control, meaning he is controlling you. Don't argue with him about anything and go along with what he says no matter how stupid and controlling it is. Have a get away plan. Look on the website "Narcissistc Personality Disorder" by Sam Vaknin. He has a book out called "Malignant Self Love" on the internet also. It is interestin reading. Been there, done that.
2006-06-09 04:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by JOYCE G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey get out while U can, there is no reason for him to be putting his hands on u. There are support groups for this, U need to get some help. I know U love him but the question is ...DO HE LOVE U. Love does not hurt. No matter what excuse he gives u when the fight is over, U need to let him go. he means U no good. Tell him Ur leaving and would like for him to leave U alone until he can figure out his problem, because U realize that he is the one with the problem..right? There r laws against domestic violence and U should use them, they r there for people in ur situation. I wish U good Luck and I have not been in this situation my self but have seen it very closely. LOVE DOES NOT HURT! Pick ur self up and get out. Love urself, U deserve at least that.
2006-06-09 04:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you settle for "that much less" then you should really have a very, i mean very very low self esteem.. How do you stay with someone when you know he is abusing you ? Sweetie I understand you love him , and I'm talking from experience love made me go blind sometimes but in the end when you do what you gotta do you learn to love yourself more and you earn self respect and wisdom too. It's all beneficial. Bottom line, dump that thing
2006-06-09 04:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now. Do you want this to continue? If you invest anymore time into it, you will just talk yourself into staying because you've already waisted so much time with him. No one should put up with an abusive person...verbal, physical, emotional, mental. Would you want to watch your best friend with a guy like this? There are so many good guys out there, Give one of them a try.
2006-06-09 04:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by KAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your a fu*king idiot for staying with him in the first place, you obviously have low self esteem....
second, he has no right to be hitting you no matter what he bullsh*ts you into beleiving...and you should have called the cops on him....
third, next time he does it call the cops, and while he's sitting it out in jail, move out change your number, and file for a restraining order, because he will come after you.
fourth, the longer you wait to leave, the worse it's gonna be, so get out as soon as he leaves he house again...
you deserve better than that.... the only man that hits a woman is a peice of sh*t kinda man... good luck and get out!
2006-06-09 04:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguments & violent circumstances supply us an adrenaline rush ( to assist us stay to tell the story ), this adrenaline rush is very addictive & has an identical result on us as being in love ( love provides us an adrenaline rush to assist us shop on in mattress ) subsequently we oftentimes confuse the two...you do no longer would desire to ask this you recognize if it rather is the appropriate decision or no longer & that adrenaline rush would nicely be gotten from the well-being center or by potential of being swept of your ft by potential of a fascinating guy purely circulate discover it else the place.
2016-12-13 15:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW - ask you friends /family to help you -don't take his excuses and he is not at home all the time so make your escape then-good luck- You are a very brave person to stand up to this bully and I think that everyone on yahoo would be right behind you to sort him out!
2006-06-09 04:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by bigbrother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out. If he hits you once, the next is right around the corner. The choice is yours not his, he only keeps you to vent his frustrations and wants you to keep taking pity on him. This isn't healthy and he don't love you, he may say that but noone who loves you hurts you the way he's doing.
2006-06-09 04:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have you locked in a room? If so, call the police.
If no, go live with family, or if that isn't possible, look on the internet for the local agency that helps battered women.
2006-06-09 04:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abusues you how? metal, physical or how?
no matter what he does? girl you need to explain yourself more!
i kinda think my bf mental abuse me by blackmailing me but if he puts a hand on me OH BOY! of course i leave him right away!
what you mean he wont let you break up with him? do you guys live together or what? NEED MORE DETAILS!
2006-06-09 04:35:24 · answer #11 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋