What is the best treatment for inappropriate aggression?

Answer 1

Seeking acceptable alternatives for the frustration. It usually indicateds an underdeveloped skill in dealing with stress. A counselor is also a good alternative.

Answer 2

I don't quite understand the question. Is this inappropriate aggression directed toward you, or is it inappropriate aggression you commit?

I would define as inappropriate aggression aggression that is not preceded by clearly hostile acts. "Clearly" is obviously hard to define as one person's perception of something's being "clearly hostile" may be contradicted by another person's perception.

For inappropriate aggression that you commit, some training in your evaluations may be the best bet. Reading literature on General Semantics will attune you to how you evaluate (and misevaluate) reality, and will help you become a better "judge" of circumstances. On the therapeutic route, Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy can be also very helpful; it is grounded in General Semantics principles, and is the grandfather to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. For REBT literature, read books by the charismatic, cantankerous Dr. Albert Ellis--still alive and working at around 93 or so years old!

If you are not so serious about treating inappropriate aggression on your part, someone else recommended taking a few moments to breathe when you feel that "snap." That may be helpful. Even more helpful will be the resolve to WALK AWAY whenever you feel that "snap." You just limit the damage you cause yourself and the other person by walking away. If you must vent, vent verbally, and if you can't vent verbally to the person, vent verbally to a friend. If you MUST vent physically, try beating pillows up. But I would advise working toward venting verbally whenever you feel like venting physically.

As for dealing with inappropriate aggression towards you, make sure that you have lines drawn for yourself with respect to the behavior that you will accept from others. If someone repeatedly crosses your lines and you don't defend them, likely the inappropriate aggression will continue, if not even worsen. However, if you start sticking up for your boundaries and defend them, you make your attention conditional on the other person's good behavior. If the other person wants your attention, it is only on the terms that s/he respects your boundaries, lines, etc. If the other person chooses to behave inappropriately/aggressively toward you, then s/he has chosen to end any attention you give her/him.

You may want to refer the person to General Semantics literature, REBT literature, or even anger management counseling or talk therapy. I do not recommend medication for the maintenance of inappropriate aggression. Else, whether aggression is kept in check is dependent on the taking of meds, and should meds be forgotten or neglected, another person can have a false sense of security that the "medicated" aggressor is medicated, and open him- or herself up to attack.

I hope you find this response helpful.

Answer 3

Don't aggravate the situation by becoming aggressive in return. Just step back extend your hand outwards with your palm up, keep your chin down and keep eye contact with the other person in a subdued way. Sometimes turning away in disappointment will also diffuse the situation. Good luck!

Answer 4

Dog? Goldfish? Heart attack? What is being inappropriately aggressive?

Answer 5

Ignore

Answer 6

Depends on the age and learning style of the offender.

Answer 7

Check out (http://www.reducingstress.net ) there is a lot of great articles and expert advice on the subject there.

Answer 8

Self awareness and training to change the behavior.

Answer 9

Meditation, breathing excercises.