Why DO WOMEN do THIS?

Question

When your flirting with a women, but do not give any compliments she's has a glimmer of it in the back of her mind, that you might like them.

But if you flirt with her using charm and compliments she is all over you?

Is it that the first one is playing it safe, and the second one is taking a chance.

Thanks
Prominence

Answer 1

The first one sounds like leading someone on, and the 2nd one sounds trying to hard and leading them on. It's not about low self-esteem, women when you compliment them, WANT to hear it, because then it's like "Ooh, he likes me!" Then she makes a move and usually gets shot down in the end because she was too desperate, clingy, naive, whatever, when she really did think that the guy was being honest.

Answer 2

It's a little bit of both. You want to give a woman a compliment or two, but at the same time you should hold back. It helps to point out her flaws---especially if she's a beautiful woman, because then she'll become insecure. And that's when you can build her shattered ego back up again. Girls love it when guys flirt with them, but you've gotta be good at it. You can't be spittin' some lame pickup line. Intelligent conversation works. Or magic tricks. Yo, if you wanna know more then read the book The Game. It's okay. I don't agree with all the advice, but what do I know, I'm not a player.

Aria

*The illnovelist*

Answer 3

Well, personally, I am always a bit suspicious of men who compliment me too much (i.e. in need of a one night stand...lol). But, I feel a lot of women are insecure and by charming these women, you are reinforcing (in their mind) that you are truly into them. Many women w/ a low sense of self can't distinguish between harmless flirting and someone who is actually seriously into them.
I think the first one may be playing it safe in some situations. But, she may just be enjoying some playful non-committal flirting. As far as the second one goes, she could very well be taking a chance w/ you, since you seem very interested in her. However, she could just be rather insecure and enjoy hanging around you, since you are boosting her ego. Maybe you should find some middle ground, when it comes to flirting. Use eye contact and give out compliments sparingly.
Whatever you decide to do, it sounds like you are enjoying the attention as well.....

Answer 4

That's interesting.

Although I know that at times you are right, I think it's far more likely for a female to become less interested in you after you give her compliments.

Just look at the number of women who like guys who either don't treat the girls nice or guys who have an air of "I could care less about her."

It's the same ole' story about women never select a guy who would treat them like Cinderella. They want bad boys who treat them a little bit like crap.

Answer 5

Some women are more desperate than others I suppose.
The one that jumps at the chance probably has low self esteem or something.

Answer 6

You would do the same thing, wouldn't you? It's called being a salesman. You get more when you try the complimentary approach. Who wouldn't like the 2nd one?

Answer 7

hey if you do not like the person you are flirting with and do not want them all over you do not be sooooooooo stupid and do it...if you know this is the behavior you will get when you do it

Answer 8

woman often have low self esteem and when you compliment them it makles them feel pretty and atrative making them wantg a men who can pick them up and make there day.

Answer 9

you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar

Answer 10

Yes, I think that's it.