We are newly weds. I am caucasian she is Filipina. I have a higher sex drive than she does and I usually am the one to initiate sex. I do not want to be a typical guy (pig) and want to respect her feelings. She always says it is ok but often tells me she is tired or I can see it in her response. She almost always has an orgasm(s) but I still worry that I am overdoing it.
2006-06-09 04:00:48 · 25 answers · asked by curious george 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOL...THATS FUNNY MY BF IS WHITE AND IM A FILIPINA BUT WE'RE THE OPPOSITE...
BUT I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL....
BUT I TRY MY BEST TO BE NOT SELFISH BECAUSE IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT MY SATISFACTION. IN THIS RELATIONSHIP...
BECAUSE BEING SELFISH IS ONE OF A REASON WHY RELATIONSHIPS DONT WORK OUT....
BEST THING TO DO IS TALK TO HER ABOUT IT AND TRY TO UNDERSTAND HER..SHE DOES THINGS FOR YOU EVEN THOUGHT SHE DOESNT WANT TO TO KEPP YOU HAPPEY..
WHAT WOULD YOU DO TO KEEP HER HAPPY?
YOU DONT WANT TO KEPP FORCING AND MAKE HER UNHAPPY...
JUST COMPROMISE...
2006-06-09 06:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by *sunshyne* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are up setting your self without any reason. If you two are newly wedded, there is a natural drive of sex. Don't think that your wife has got tired. She enjoys. There is obvious tiredness in sex. But that is natural.
2006-06-09 04:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, Dude, you're being disrespectful of her feelings. Having been to the Philippines, I know their culture is different to ours. There, women are taught to be submissive to their man regardless of their own feelings. That's probably why she says it OK. If you can see it in her response, why push it?
If she's not in the mood, go shake hands with Mr. Happy and give her a break.
2006-06-09 04:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by michael s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By respecting her feelings....if you know its going to be just another performance for her back off...do something she will appreciate instead...continue to do so until she actually initiates sex at least once in awhile.
2006-06-09 05:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe when you sponsor her sister she can help share the workload and give your wife more time to rest. Then she might be more willing to play. either that or she will trade rooms with her sister and let you have her a few nights a week. Filipinos sometimes share.
2006-06-09 05:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often is this? Like four times a day? Or three times a week?
2006-06-09 04:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by Neaonbhb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say this in Filipino: (i'll spell it so you can pronounce it right)
ma-hal kit-ta tal-a-go. Sa-ket sa pu-so ko when you are unhappy and tired. Ano ba gus-to ga-ga-win-ko I will do anything to make you happy.
Yep, she should tell you why she is feeling the way she does.
2006-06-09 04:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise.
2006-06-09 04:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by DELETED ACCOUNT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a night off and give her a break.
2006-06-09 04:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u guys are newly weds so u have to have it alot...but try talking to her about it and see what she says
2006-06-09 04:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by Zina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋