This question is primarily for guys, but women can answer too.
I am one of a few people in my circle of friends that has stated that and has stuck to it. I have nothing against women with kids, it's just MY personal preference. I come from a single family household so it's not like I think my mother is evil b/c she raised 2 boys by herself. I've talked to one of my good friends about this and one of the few voices of encouragement when he was planning to marry a woman with a beautiful little girl. I have nothing against women with kids, again, it's just MY personal preference.
To me I want to know who she is without the interference of her kids. Dealing with baby daddy is another issue I refuse to deal with. I want children eventually, I just don't want one going into a relationship.
2006-06-09 03:57:02 · 7 answers · asked by King H 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your last paragraph is the very thing that hits the nail on the head.
the thing is you cannot date her without her children and therefore going in you need to know that they are a package and if you cannot handle that then don't waste her time or yours.
2006-06-09 04:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't date a woman with kids now but that doesn't mean never, and even having said that I never rule out anything completely for a great girl! I am not ready for the responsibility of children yet. For me a woman is enough work for now. I still like some alone romancing with the lady. A lot of these girls have had that already with the babies' father. If we break up I can deal with a woman but breaking up with kids I'm close to is tough.
2006-06-09 11:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ben Jammin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who said you have to marry the kids they come with the relationship if you love and care for her then you except her children also. if you are a young man than i suggest you dont because you also will carry her baggage to, and that can be a real responsibility, i know cause i did and it has been tough but time and sound judgment can change a whole lot of past as for there father i know this, who you are today and how you act tomorrow is how your children will know you when they grow up. i am my childrens father i provided for them and there mother and with there mothers help we have a home and my grand children call me grandpa. and all this from a marrage to a woman who allready had kids
2006-06-09 11:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I weren't married I would date a woman with kids but I would be very careful.
My first wife had a son when we were married, and I tried to accept him like my own.
She loved him a lot more than me. She would spoil him, not discipline him, make sure I knew he was not mine and that SHE was his parent so I did not have very many rights,she refused to have sex with me for months at a time, refused to let us have any more kids, and eventually left me when I said that I was going to discipline him ( not beat him, just discipline).
Some women can be very psycho about their kids.
2006-06-09 11:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by randyskip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids
2006-06-09 11:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by smartheadben 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of guys feel that way and i understand why, but they could be passing up the best thing to come into their lives and it also doesn't mean that we single moms have to like that sad fact
2006-06-09 11:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way!
2006-06-09 11:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by I'M GONNA GO PLACES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋