He treats me like a girlfriend and spends all his free time with me and spoils me with gifts. He says he likes me very much. Im so confused
2006-06-09 03:38:51 · 26 answers · asked by sylvie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question is what do you want. It doesn't matter how good some one treats you, if they are unwilling to define your relationship in terms that agree with what you want then there is a problem and you need to solve that problem even if it means walking away.
2006-06-09 03:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
That is a relationship. Do you mean a romantic relationship? a proposal? a girlfriend? the fact that he says he likes you very much may mean he just wants you to like him very much back. If you do like him much, play along, ask what he feels about you dating someone else to gauge where he stands and be clear that you are asking that to sincerely know how he feels about it and not as an ultimatum, a threat, a power-play or to jeoperdise your "thing" that is going on. Let him know you have no one in mind. You will then know where he stands. Success chance 81%
2006-06-09 04:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Nairoberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello??? Get out and find someone who wants to be with you in a relationship like you do. Too many people spend time in relationships that are doomed from the begining. Yours is already doomed. Don't waste your time. He spends time and gifts to bait you and keep you around. He is just waiting for someone else.
2006-06-09 03:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by JenUs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you want from this. This situation would suit a lot of women but it sounds like you want more than he does. Ask him why he doesn't wanna call it a relationship and if you are unhappy with his answer then move on and find someone who wants the same as you do.
Good luck in love pet!
2006-06-09 03:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys have problems with labeling. Why doesn't he want to call it official?
And if he does all these things with and for you, why do you really care about a label. The label doesn't mean anything. Its just a word.
If he is showing you and treating in all ways right why complain? By complaining you might push him away and then where would you be?............ALONE!!!!!!
2006-06-09 03:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he likes you, he just isn't ready for a commitment. A guy who is uncomfortable with putting a lable on things is not ready to just be with one girl. I'm sure he likes you, but maybe he wants to be sure that he is serious about you before he calls you his girlfriend. It's good to be patient with things, but I do understand why you are frustrated. It would be best that you let him know how you feel.
2006-06-09 03:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by cup_o_shina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is scrared that if you put a label on it things might get complicated if you like him then I wouldn't worry about the label because you are the one he is spending time with and buying things for so he obviously likes you.
2006-06-09 03:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he call it? Sounds like a relationship to me. Don't get hung up in semantics. If he's spending all his free time with you, enjoy it.
2006-06-09 03:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy like that...it's commitment issues. Really tough. You can either go along with it or when you've had enough...come clean with him and tell him enough is enough and you deserve better. Maybe to him 4 months is still the 'get to know you' phase.
2006-06-09 03:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by stacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it just a close friendship? Is he married or in another relationship? Are you two having sex? If you are and he is not in a relationship with you then I would wonder if he is in one with someone else. If not, then maybe he just values your friendship.
2006-06-09 03:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋