Like we all ain't ugly and I can't lie some fat girls be just looking fat and nasty but i ain't like that.Is there something wrong.I don't know I just had to ask.
2006-06-09 03:18:52 · 42 answers · asked by Chontal H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't think I'm not proud of who I am cause that's not the case even though 13 years old and I more then what society thinks it right I still love myself and ain't NOBODY man or woman gon make me think that just cause I can't fit into clothes with just 1 digit I'm any less of a person then they are and it's not that I'm hurt by what people say because I'm not the ONLY thing that people can come at is my wieght I'm beautiful,smart, and can do any and everything for myself.What makes it so funny is boys always say I'm cute but I'm fat.Ain't nothing else wrong I play rope everyday,I make friends all the time,and I like walking around so you can't say I'm lazy.This world this world?
2006-06-09 04:42:54 · update #1
Not all guys are against dating big girls. I like big girls if they're well proportioned, cute, sweet and like to cuddle.
Big girls need lovin too ya know.
2006-06-09 03:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, I used to be in your shoes. If you are under 20, if I had it all to do over again, I would have forgone the boys and concentrated on College and making a life for myself. But no, I found a guy ( I weighed 180-200 during our relationship) and got in a relationship with him and subsequentially wasted 8 years with him because I thought that I needed a man to make me feel good about myself. He treated me not very well, and would hit on my much skinnier freinds. So, I know that you are a beautiful person, and yes, there are men that will go out with larger women, but I want to stress that you need to make a good life for yourself before you look for a guy.
Good Luck!
*BTW* You can loose weight. I found the courage to do it and I now weigh 160, and I feel so much better than I used to! Believe me, if I can do it, anyone can!
2006-06-09 03:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by The Nag 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's instinctual. It has nothing to do with being mean, it has to do with the fact that men, at their most basic animal level, look for women who have the best chance at sucessfully carrying a child. That is something that is hard-wired in our brains through thousands of years. Women with slim waists, healthy skin, big breasts all are signs of a woman who might have a better chance at having a healthy child. Even in indigenous populations like the Amazon where people still live in very primal settings, the men are more attracted to women who fit the profile described above. Now, our higher levels of thinking and interacting overcome alot of those attractions when we find someone we connect with on an intellectual and emotional level; something that wasn't done thousands of years ago when having babies was the key to surviving and carrying on the seed.
2006-06-09 03:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am a guy who was 300lbs and now 200lbs in shape. It is a different world of acceptance. People treat me better I get a lot more dates, I get invited to more parties. Regular people are much quicker to start conversations with me. I was always a confident, hardworking, nice guy. It is total discrimination!
People will say things because they don't want to hurt your feelings but your definitely fighting a tough battle in the dating scene. When jerks are rewarded just keep going, Inner beauty!
2006-06-09 03:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ben Jammin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is too much a stigma that society has placed on being overweight if you are a girl. Ever notice how fat guys can still hook up with pretty girls? That's because there is more pressure for women, mainly from hollywood, to stay thin. Most men think they should be able to date supermodels.
2006-06-09 03:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by cup_o_shina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you know that you're beautiful, then there's nothing to really worry. I'm pretty sure that you are beautiful, so there's no reason to worry about these intimidated guys. Many guys are shallow hals, and many are not. But for those who are, they have no clue of what they are missing. Because all women are great in every aspect. And I believe you should go pamper yourself, for being beautiful. You shouldn't need anyone to tell you that you are beautiful, because you already know it. Just tell the guys who are shy, just tell them to listen to Destiny's Child Song 'Bootylicous." They wont be able to handle you, stay beautiful and fly.
2006-06-09 03:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Danyizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know many beautiful women that are over weight, and they can get a man. I think it comes down to being comfortable with themselves. When a guys see that ur confident they're more likely to be attracted to u. Guys also feel like they need compete, so if his girl isn't up to the standards of the other guys he'll get tease and then he'll dump u.
2006-06-09 03:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't walk around necessarily calling yourself "FAT", you are probably beautiful. Men love all sorts of women, and you just need to let fate take its course ... Society has been brainwashed to believe that 110 lbs. is what is beautiful... but in most cases its not true. I'm 110 lbs. and MOST men tell me they can't stand thin girls... and that I don't have enough meat on my bones. I'm only 5'2", so I don't consider myself skinny... more like athletic-ish. So for the guys who say I'm too thin, I say "NEXT!"
2006-06-09 03:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by westcoastbeauty79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys dislike "fat" girl - I try not to judge by the pound - if a girl has the right qualities and personality I am attracted, regardless of her size. lol some of the best lovin I ever had was from this plump, redheaded freckle faced girl that loved her cowboy boots - wish I could find her again after all these years - "miss you Karen" - muah!
2006-06-09 03:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by trickster_travels 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some blokes very much like large women, personally anything from UK dress size 8 to 18 is great with me, maybe a little larger depends how they carry it! However there are some guys who are into BBW (Big Beautiful Women) and they really do like ‘em big!!!!
2006-06-09 03:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by overload_uk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but I'd thought I'd go ahead and answer since I don't like fat guys. And when I use the word fat, I mean more than the, "Oh, he could stand to lose 10 or 15 pounds." I'm talking hefty men. I don't like fat men because I don't find them attractive. There have been big guys that struck my fancy but when I think about kissing them or running my hands up their chest, it's a big turn off. All that excess flesh makes it appear that they don't have the discipline to control eating and physical activity.
But I've heard of men that like big women. You see that pretty often with minorities. And I'm sure you've heard of "chubby chasers." I heard one guy say he likes his women big because fat women are more enthusiastic with bedroom stuff because they are so grateful someone is with them despite their fatness.
2006-06-09 03:38:06 · answer #11 · answered by c'est_moi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋