Why isn't there more Black Female and White Male Couples?

Question

I have asked a couple of Black Females and they said that they feel that culturally..It's not acceptable. I have also asked a couple of White Males and they said that they don't have the confidence to approach the BFs. Also they don't understand the BFs

What do you think about this?

Answer 1

Maybe many white men aren't physically attracted to black women. A lot of people mistake a lack of sexual attraction for racism, but it isn't. Racism is a choice, whereas the features of a woman that turn a man on aren't. In my case, I am very attracted to long hair (usually blonde or auburn, but not overly picky), green eyes, skin ranging from alabaster to light tan, large breasts, long shapely legs, & small, firm butts. Not too many black women I've seen fall into that criteria. I'm mostly white (mainly Irish), & just over a quarter Indian (Cherokee to be specific), but I'm mainly attracted to white women.

As for not understanding black women, I think I can offer some insight there, as well, though even without trying to offend people, I probably will. In my own experience, a few black women have hit on me. If I politely said I wasn't interested, or even told them I was involved with someone, I was immediately accused of being a racist, & lying if I said I had a girlfriend. The attitude I got was very loud, brash, & rude, & if I had had any interest, it would have been gone at this point. No one I know is going to be more attracted to someone if they can't accept rejection, & make you feel as though you are obligated to be interested in them, or else you are a racist. I hope this attitude is rare, & I have just been unfortunate in my own experiences, but if it isn't, changing this is something that could help more black women attract white men, if they are interested. Most of my friends are very attracted to women who are polite, demure, & who will not attempt to embarrass them in public during an argument. Basically, we like women who act like ladies in public. Having the right attitude can be more attractive than a person's race. I hope this helps, & hasn't offended anyone.

Answer 2

A lot about male female and most social relationships is a power play game with each player consciously or subconsciously trying to dominate the other in some way. It could be for affection, love, status(as is the case with chasing outstanding beauties), companionship, money etc. The less of this domination power-play there is, the easier it is to get along, in any relationship. I think the society you live in has such a complex domination pattern for white males to take on black females as they would be giving up too much. In a good society or an actualised couple, race would never be an issue. Even the matter of physical issues like skin tone and hair texture. In a truly sure couple nothing could stop a relationship, even what "able" people call "disabilities" e.g blindness. Actualise yourself first and forget about such questions. Think about it

Answer 3

I think the females should try approaching the males but you have to remember some black parents don't want their kids in mixed relationships so its not just white people who are racist.personally i think black females are more positive about their outlook and more confident .Also there are a lot of beautiful black women if i wasn't married i would have no problem asking a black female out for a date..

Answer 4

I am a white girl and I have a thing for black men, (tupac of all), and i have white men who go out with black females. It just depends on the type of person.

I work in a posh area, no-one mixes, white with white, black with black, but when i go home to the "ghetto" its different. black and whites are mixed together.

Moreover, i have asked certain black femals if and why/not they would go out with a white man and the responses i got was totally halfed. 50% said yeah they would and it dont matter as long as the're nice, the other 50% said it was how the world portraid white men in the world. stuck up, boring and racist. which is true in rich parts of the world, but not everywhere.

I believe that it doesnt matter what colour you are, and the people who disagree are small minded and arrogant.

Answer 5

I really don't understand why the U.S. is so fixated on black women dating and marrying interracially. I mean it's not a cultural practice or value for most bw to go beyond their ethnic group. Most are happy sticking with tradition, whether it's popular or not.

Answer 6

I think it is more to do with personnal choice. As a black female I choose to date within my race. People who want to date out of their race - thats their choice. I know mixed race couples and they are happy. I think it is more acceptable now than it was in the past. I think it is no-ones business but the 2 people in the relationship anyway. I have had white male mates..some whome have asked me out but they just really are not my type.

Answer 7

Where are you living at or your black female friends living at......the moon . You think this issue exits in your neighbourhood or state but it doesnt if you travel the world. How can it not be culturally acceptable when black guys marry white girls all the time and blacks girls marrying whites is now said to be culturally not accepted..... Your black females are nuts to stereo type then selfs.

Answer 8

Society-wise I dont think it matter tht muchany more. But I can see how white guys don't understand BF's. I have literally seen a BF sitting and conversing at appropriate sound levels when she was the only black on the bus. 1.5 miles later some more blacks got on the bus and the change in the one chick was astounding! Suddenly she was loud, and talking in "black style". I'm sure she isn't the only BF Jeckle-Hyde. With that in mind who woul want to date someone who can't figure themself out?

Answer 9

If I ever brought home a white male, my whole family would totally make fun of me and I really don't feel like going through that. And besides, i'm not really attracted to most white guys, especially AMERICAN white males. They are way too conservative.

Answer 10

My good mate is from Trinidad and he says black woman stand no bulls... unlike white chicks . Personally id go for white / asian / spannish ......whoever is hot in my opinion . Do Guys ever vFULLY understand woman .lol ps im white so........