i am a 16 year old girl and have the lowest self esteem ever, i have never kissed a guy and i am really scared of dating ,i guese i really feel ugly and wortlless. is any body out there? are there any guys from europe available? canany body make me feel more human?
2006-06-09 02:43:12 · 8 answers · asked by Vivi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one can make you more confident. You have to do that for yourself. If you go looking for some guy to boost your self-esteem, you'll attract a guy who will tell you anything you want to hear to get you in bed, & from what you are saying, that isn't something you are ready for at this time in your life. Right now, you need to focus on you. Try to work on school, a job, & make the most of yourself. If you start setting new, realistic goals for yourself & achieving them, your confidence can't help but go up, & guys will notice this. Good luck.
2006-06-09 02:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to lay all of that baggage on a poor unsuspecting person and "also" expect them to care about you?
If you have low self esteem and you are on the internet, type in low self esteem and participate in some of the many classes they have to help you work on those issues.
After you've done that, if overweight, work on self control.
After that, go to a spa that does your hair, eyebrows, nails and get a massage while you're at it.
If you also have cash flow problems, check many of the fashion pages on the net, and experiment with re-creating yourself, get a new style.
After all that rubbish dealing with your outside, read about what makes you tick, try to become humble and less engrossed in the outer you, but in the beauty within. After you've mastered that, honed your morals and values through self introspection, you may be "The One" for someone who is interested in you as you are or were. But, please, don't dump the baggage on someone and expect them to love you when you don't love yourself - okay?
2006-06-09 02:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is insecure before they start dating. Not everybody can look like a model on the cover of Vogue so stop worrying about looks. It will easier for you if you stop worrying about it. The more you think about dating, the more scared you will become, and when you have a chance to talk to someone, they may think you are putting them off because of your intense anxiety.
In my experience, people are never as ugly as they think they are, and others are not as beautiful as they think they are.
Maybe wearing some sexy clothes will give you more confidence. Accentuate the positive and goodluck!
2006-06-09 02:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe you'll come into your own when you're ready. Don't worry about it and don't force it. Just have being a kid for now and when the time comes you'll know it and you'll be ready for it. I had low self esteam and was shy until I was 22 then all of a sudden something snapped inside of me and i became very out going. Just enjoy who you are now.
2006-06-09 02:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by zmebme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ViVi, please use the spell check in the right hand corner. Please don't focus on boys right now, focus on the good things about yourself. Make a pros and cons list. If need be, buy a self help book. They offer good ideas and exercises to boost self- esteem.
2006-06-09 03:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Boss' n it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up every morning with the belief that you are a wonderful person. The higher you hold your head, the more people notice!!
2006-06-09 02:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by Krystle J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u need to have more self-confidence and kinda put urself out there! besides u should be concentrating on school and boys will come later!
2006-06-09 02:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need is to make yourself think that you are beautiful. then you can get up the courage to talk to guys.
2006-06-09 02:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋