I need a good excuse to move to New York next year.
I am Italian and right now i live in London. I want to move to New York, my father has a friend in New York who told me she would be happy to let me stay in her house. Obviously i don't plan to stay in her house forever just the time to get a job and study maybe in a course. Im 19 and my father dosen't want to let me go he says i should do something here in London, how can i convince him? I still don't earn money because my father gives me everything i need, also i am not studying here at the moment im not doing anything, please help me how can i make sure i get where i want? what would you do if u was in my shoes?
2006-06-09 02:03:41 · 13 answers · asked by Lassy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are 19. You are an adult. It is time to get out of your father's and on your own.
He may be strict, but by you staying there and letting him give you everything that you need you are telling him that you are not ready to be out on your own yet.
Tell your father that it is time for you to make some decisions on your own and to grow into a responsible adult.
Good Luck!
2006-06-09 02:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your father is not letting you leave because your not responsible there. Your not in school, your not working, you said it yourself. Your not doing anything. He takes care of you. It's yoru fault. Before you go anywhere you need to become independant. Your father doesn't want you to become a leech on someone else. Look at it from his perspective. How would you get to New York? He would have to pay your airfare. How would you eat? How would you get around? You would be totally leeching on just your father but your families friend. It is best for you to start working and get acquainted with being a grown up before you decide to move abroad. Do it on your own dime not yoru parents.
Good luck!
2006-06-09 02:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this isn't what you want to hear but, your father loves you and wants what is best for you. I know you're at an age when you think YOU know what's best for you. You said your father gives you everything you need. How fortunate you are but maybe this is why he is reluctant to let you go. Get a job while you are still at home and prove to him that you can be responsible and maybe he will see things differently. Prove to him that you are a man and can take care of yourself. Good luck.
2006-06-09 02:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 19 and need permission or does it boil down to you want him to pay the expenses to go to NY? They have coddled you so much, you would not be able to stand on your own two feet. Get an education or a job, save your $ and fly yourself. For goodness sake, your an adult, start acting like it with no free rides of clothing, housing, food, cars, etc. Nothing is stopping you from coming other than, you needing his financial support to get there, and sustain you, till you get off your hindend and do it yourself.
2006-06-09 02:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by DollyLama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need to grow up & make your own decisions now and that you are an adult. Tell him you can't stay under his wings forever and that it is time to live your life now. Ask him if he trusts you and if he says yes, then say well ok let me go to New York and get out on my own. Tell him you are smart enough to take on responsibility & make decisions for yourself now.
2006-06-09 02:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by beachbum26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend a job in London first to show him that you can take care of yourself. Push yourself to show him. That is unless you can't; in which case you don't need to move to New York.
2006-06-09 02:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by Titainsrule 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life where you are now then you will have the money to do what you want and won't have to answer to your father.
2006-06-15 15:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by cassie12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start doing somethings on your own without your fathers help so that he can see that you can make it on your own and you are serious about this move. You shouldn't have to make excuses to start your own life.
2006-06-09 02:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by aam112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he knows something about this person in New York...
Maybe she wants you for more than just a roommate...
2006-06-09 02:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by William B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is stopping you there doing something for yourself in london your dad gave you good advice you could do something there in london if you really wanted to the only one stopping you from doing something in london is yourself
2006-06-09 02:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋