Sending my 15 year old sister to Military school?? But they dont have the $$ for it. HELP!!?

Question

My little sister is 15 years old and my parents want to send her away to military school but they just dont have the money. Ever since my kids have been born she has gotten even worse and they are 2 and 4. She has pushed my g-ma down and broke her arm, she is yelling at my kids, stolen money, stolen my daughters'-age 2 clothes, hitting my parents, hitting my kids and leaving marks, she throws tantrums in a store when my mom doesnt get her nething or if my mom gets the kids something she takes and hides it or gets mad and makes a scene in the store, she refuses to let others hold the kids especially my daughter. Thats what led to my g-ma We think shes is SERIOUSLY jealous of my kids and afraid of what she might do to them or neone else. PLEASE HELP

And yes i am married to the childrens father!!! And no im not looking for people to send me money, just looking for people to send their suggestions on what the hell to do with her

Answer 1

Contact several schools to see if they have scholarship program where your sister could attend for free or at a reduced tuition rate.

I feel bad for your family. Good luck.

Answer 2

Well, it's very common for children to get left out a lot when grandbabies come in the picture. Maybe she (sister) feels neglected and someone needs to consider spending a little more quality time with her. I know she's 15, and by that age, she should probably not be so selfish and understand what goes on when babies come into this world, but here you are with given circumstances, so you have to deal with it as it comes. I've served in the Air Force, so I think military school could do her a lot of good. She won't be able to rebel, they teach her so many responsibilities and give her such a great independence, it can't hurt. And the govt. can also help in any way they can, your mother just has to file for help through your local govt. office. I know this can be very difficult, so I'll keep your family in my prayers. Make sure your sister knows she is loved unconditionally and those babies are no more important than she is, she just needs to grow up a little and accept them. Maybe try to involve her in helping with them, so she doesn't feel left out? Good luck!

Answer 3

First of all, I would have to ask why your parents are letting her run the household. I mean after she hits your parents and pushes your grandmother down the steps your parents still allow her to live in the house? When I was growing up all I had to do was ACT like I was about hit my parents and I would get the serious beat-down. Not to mention if I so much as pushed my grandmother on a flat surface- That would have gotten me a trip to the hospital. I know that these days parents can't beat up their kids the same way they could 30 years ago but certainly the kid should not be beating up the parent. Your parents need to take control and either kick her tail or put her out. She needs to understand what its like to get a can of "Whoop-@$$" opened on her.

Answer 4

Where I come from..... She would get a simple foot in her @ss!

You need to take this punk out back and give her the @ss wooping of a life time! I am not supporting child abuse!!!! She is 15 y/o and needs to see the real world for what it is!

You can report he to the police each time she presents a problem like this... I know you don't want her to go to kiddy jail, but that is what you are doing by sending her to military school!

Sounds to me like this spoiled brat just needs to be put into her place a few times and she will turn it around!

Answer 5

You parents should have beat the b***** down instead of allowing her to become this way. If she has mental disabilities, she needs to have in-patients treatment, in a hospital, not at home with toddlers. If she does not have a mental disorder, she SHOULD be in jail for assaulting your grandmother, causing her grievous bodily harm, and assaulting your children and leaving them marks, as you say. In fact kick her a** out. Now you could just be trying to find a dumb a*s to send you money, you might just be a scammer, I don't see a REAL mother allowing this to happen to her kids. I bet your kids dad ain't around even if you are married to him, 'cause he would've fixed her a**!! Hell, her own dad needs to fix her too, with a belt!! Maybe the whole household is a problem. Kick her a**!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Uh oh. Military School?? I dunno...have you guys tried counselling first? Take her to a reputed psychiatrist and have her checked out. Its one of the most easiest, most convenient, and most affordable ways. This might be a genuine problem so just admitting her to a military school might offer a tempoary solution, but theres not likely to be any long term benefits. But then again, I wouldn't know. So please take her to psychlogist or a psychiatrist immediately. And communicate. Have you ever really sat down and asked her exactly what her problem was? Oh well...
Prayers and good luck wishes! Hope everything turns out for the best.

Answer 7

I'm sure you already tried this but, sit her down and disscuss this as an adult with her. Explain that you love her just as much, and disscuss why she is acting this way. Usually kids behave badly because they want attension. spend some quality time with her. maybe hire a good nany to help you out for a while.

Answer 8

Have them go to the courts and ask for an government agency that would help w/the cost. Believe me there are alot of resources but alot of parents are unaware of them so keep digging and you'll find something. I would really like to help my son was very much out of control and still his our government agenciy in Marinette,Wisconsin failed me and my son! He's an adult now and still has'nt figured out that ALL ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUINCES.

Answer 9

dont let them send her to military school. the parents should deal with these problems themselves. there are some great suggestions in all the other answers

Answer 10

Dang! sounds like she needs more than military school!