This has happened for 5 years.
Examples, deaths in the family, not enough money, family arguing, etc. etc.
2006-06-08 15:35:15 · 13 answers · asked by blondie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am not appreciating all the negativity from some of the answers that some of you gave... HAVE a heart. No, we don't live together, we have a child together and we do want to get married. No, deaths do not happen every week or every day, but they have been big enough to take time to heal. And yes money is an issue, it's a fact!!
2006-06-09 10:57:22 · update #1
because it's not been the right time for you to get married..when the time is right it'll all fall into place with little or no trouble..I hope it's very soon for you...good luck!!
2006-06-08 15:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Syeira 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've been postponing a wedding for five years?
You mean to tell me that you haven't had a single weekend in the past five years that hasn't been tainted by the death of a family member? Good lord, you must not have any family left to invite!
As for everything else--people arguing, not having enough money.... those are excuses. Are you sure you really want to get married?
Because if you did, this is what you'd have done four years ago: Hire a minister or justice of the peace to come to your house, a favorite restaurant, or a favorite park near your home, wherever. You'd have called everyone up and said, "I'm getting married next Saturday. You can come if you want. Don't worry about gifts, but bring a bottle of wine." You'd have put on some nice clothes and bought some wedding bands from a local jeweler, put on a favorite CD, and maybe ordered a cake. You wouldn't have needed a lot of money, and folks who didn't want to come just wouldn't have showed up.
And then you'd have gotten married.
Unless you don't really want to.
--You have a child together and you don't live together... and you've been postponing your wedding this long? I think your child's welfare is more important than money for wedding plans! Start acting like a family.
2006-06-08 22:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are trying too hard to have a wedding, and not hard enough to have a marriage. Go see the Justice of the Peace and get it done with. If you want to buy beer for a bunch of drunken relatives, do that some other time. If you feel the need to waste a bunch of money on dresses, flowers, a bad photographer, and a banquet, just wait until your 25th anniversary and let your kids pay for it. Use the money you would spend on a wedding for a down payment on a house.
2006-06-08 15:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condlolences on your fiance and daughter! this manner of tragedy!! My suggestion to you is.... that is a few thing your fiance needs to verify on. She has been by a poor ordeal and it would be as much as her regardless of if or to no longer wade by with it. The fees already incurred in making plans a marriage can consistently be remade and easily human beings could understand. And if anyone had a situation with the postponement they are able to recover from it or die pissed!! your loved ones comes first and all human beings would desire to seek for some expert help in coping with this occasion. If she comes to a decision to circulate by with the marriage as deliberate determine there are adequate human beings handy to furnish emotional help as i'm particular she and all in touch would be overly emotional!! outfits and makeup can cover the bruises and scars yet love is the only element that would help heal the discomfort!! God bless you all and remember that at present time is yours and no person elses!! Make it particular and make it top!
2016-09-28 05:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by fritch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are just finding excuses for not having the "perfect" wedding. (As if there is any such thing) You obviously do not think getting married is all that important. I have a feeling you two are living together. You are treating a wedding like a big fancy party and not a union of two people.
2006-06-08 16:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married last month and we had to postpone twice, i wasn't happy either. When we did tie the knot i wished i would have saved all the money it cost to get married and went to the justice of the peace. If your heart and his beat together then it shouldn't matter where or when. My advise is go and run off one weekend and do it.
2006-06-08 15:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get married, why not just get married? Yeah, things happen like you listed, however, life goes on. My grandpa died the day before my brother's wedding, but the show must go on. We all put on our smiles (as hard as it was) and went on with it and dealt with our grief the next days. You can't allow things to mess up your special day. You plan the date, organize and reserve everything and if the family is argueing, that's their problem. If they love you, they will show up and not ruin your day.
2006-06-09 00:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your heart, it doesn't appear you want to get married. If you want something enough, you'll make sure it happens. You will find a way! I think you need to think things over and decide if this is what you truly want. It doesn't seem to be so!
2006-06-09 04:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right time will come, trust me... i live in new zealand, my gf lives in california... for 2 years ive been trying to make it out to her.... but ive had exactly the same thing happen, deaths in the family, fighting, friend problems, you name it ive had it... im flying out there next week, you will get it and it will be worth it
2006-06-08 15:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something in your heart dont want you to get married so maybe you dont need to get married.
2006-06-08 15:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by darlena88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋