Am I desprate?

Question

I am gonna be 21 years old this month and I am not really excited about it. First of all I am an over achiever perfectionist and this is evident in my day to day activities. I except too much of myself and I never feel I have attained excellence. My main problem now is dating!! Oh that word, just thinking about it makes me so sick. I seem never to be attracted to guys who really like me. I have turned a dozen down and just recently have been turned down. What an awful feeling that was. The painful part about this whole situation is that I have never dated before and even kissed before because I have always been waiting for that "perfect " man to come and he never seem to be around, Tried internet dating and it was a total disaster. I am a pretty girl and I feel I deserve more. This new year all I am praying for is the right guy in my life. I want to date and do all the things that come with it. Any ideas on what to do. I feel this is my year!!

Answer 1

You're not desperate. You're uptight. Sorry to put it that way. You need to chillll the f**k out. You're only young once. Don't care about the future. Don't care about the "right" guy. Just care about yourself and having fun right now. Enjoy yourself as much as you can. Just go out and party. Go clubbing and socialize. You'll eventually end up with someone. There's no big deal about DATING or having FUN. Open up. Expose yourself to a side of life that you've been afraid of until now. You want to change yourself which is good, now go out and do it.

Besides, you'll never find the right guy if you don't go through the wrong guy. You fail 100% of the time you don't try. SO JUST TRY! IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU FALL DOWN. GET BACK UP AND GO FOR IT AGAIN!

I'm such an inspirational speaker =]
P.S. don't be afraid to have an ego. and f**k what anyone else thinks about you. thats what I do and it works.

Answer 2

I think go out to contact all kinds of things, life is not so serious, if you open your minds , perhaps, chances you need is waiting for you, the World maybe not what you imagine, if you can sacrifice something the rewards is great, the ideal guys exist around you, the much you expect , the more much you disappoint.

Answer 3

Being turned down is an awful feeling. However, when you turned down the guys who were interested in you, they experienced that same awful feeling. The object of dating is to get to know someone better so that you can decide if you want to have a relationship, a friendship or just a casual acquaintance. Those guys who were interested in you saw something about you that attracted them. Get to know them and find out if you have shared interests or activities. Remember that only an expert can recognize a diamond before it has been polished.

Answer 4

first of all i think what you should do is go out,
try meeting new people because you cant just be waiting
for one to fall out of the blue or else it could be a long time until one does so dont wait for it to happen just make it happen. Trust me i know how your feeling right now.....

Answer 5

yes, it's ur year
just do what u want and what u like
that's it
but be happy
always
huni, u know the ladies on the site sugarmommymeet are always so optimistic, they smile even when in big trouble
so smile to life ok?
best regards

Answer 6

"Perfect" is an illusion you create but you don't understand.

You don't know what is "perfect" for you so you should just try to get out there and see what the field is all about. You may not hit a homerun the first time at bat, nor should you expect to but if you never swing you'll never play and THAT is what it is all about. You need to try to find the "perfect" one for you and you can only do that by finding out what it is you are looking for. I don't know... good luck good miss.

Answer 7

what seemed to work for me was to just forget about the whole dating thing and just be confident in yourself and try to enjoy life. guys will follow as they see how happy you are with life and how confident you are in yourself.

Answer 8

just go out there and flirt

Answer 9

how wood u no is a guy isn't "perfect man" for u if u dont get out there and get to know them, otherwise u'll nevr find the "perfect man"
hope u find him

Answer 10

Well first of all you have to stop being such a profectionist because you are probably comparing unrealistically all the men you meet to your perfect standards.Doing that you will never meet the right man becasue that man doesn't exist.Once you accomplish that you will meet a great not perfect man.