me nd my 5 yearold on were going to a friends today. Hes was going to pick us up and then drive us back to his. He lives an hour and half way so its a fairish journey. Thing is he rang me at 5.30am and he was drunk...obvioulsy new year he'd been out...which is fine. but i said i didnt want him to come get us today we'd go tomorrow cause he'd still be over the limit.
Am i being petty? he want coming til this afternoon, but my little boy as parents will understand is my whole world. Im a single parent and we've not had an easy time...his dad was a drunk and hit me blah blah. if it was just me going maybe id notmind, but because my son will be in the car, i'm feeling uneasy
Am i being petty?!!! I feel bad now because my friend is now ignoring my texts
2007-12-31 17:48:23 · 16 answers · asked by emma b 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oooh definatly not jealous of him going out. He invited me to go too, but i chose to stay at home with my son, rather than leave him with a teenager i hardly know. I'd never hold a night out against any of my friends. I chose to have my son, when i did that i gave up nights out...which i am completely fine about. I'd already told him we'd go wednesday but he insisted he was only going to have a couple because he wanted us to go over today, i guess thats why i'm feeling a little hurt if anything. His dad is a recovering alcoholic and he always tells me how scared he used to be a a child when his dad drank and drve with them. So i'm struggling to understand his actions.
and as someone said, yeah guess i do like my frind as more than a friend, or did. Think i've jut sen a side to him i'm nt so keen on now
Never mind, i'm glad it' not me being petty, i should really stop worrying!! :) ...just means i'm going to have to go to the sales with my big sister! (its a hard life! lol)
2007-12-31 18:06:25 · update #1
no because the man knew good and well that you had a child and putting him in danger would be against the law. and i understand that your child is your world, you did the right thing. he is drunk he will get over it and you will be friends again, dont worry about him ignoring you. if he were your true friend he would understand.
2007-12-31 17:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being petty just very cautious as you have every right to be. You've already identified for yourself why it isn't safe to be a passenger in this car or to take your little boy in the car too when the driver is not exactly sober so you need no lectures from me or anyone else.
If this man is stupid enough to get behind the wheel when his senses and reaction times are impaired because of alcohol then that is his prerogative, but you have chosen not to be that stupid with him - good for you!!!
2008-01-01 03:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being petty. You are defending your son from the vilanous acts of cretins and arsefaces. Congradulations to you, I applauid your course of action. PS you should get a Victorian Cross for your act of bravery, courage, and the will to do whats right in the world. Groovy!
2008-01-01 17:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did exactly the right thing
none of us are perfect,(although i'm pretty close. lol) and we all do things that are near the mark or things that we really shouldnt.
but where your children are concerned, there should be no risks whatsoever. your friend should understand this.
don't beat yourself up over this, you are a good mum and once again, you did the right thing
2008-01-01 03:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by hizagiza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not being petty, he is being selfish. He is carring about his self and his wants, but not yours. He should understand that you are just protecting yourself, him, and mainly your child! if he was a good friend he would be able to understand , forgive, and forget the past!
-cat
2008-01-01 02:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by punk_pie790 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were very wise in your decision. Not only for your son but for yourself as well. Drinking and driving is a deadly combination. You sent him a clear message. If he is worthy(and wise himself) he will acknowledge the importance of your stand. You put the safety of your child in highest priority.
Kudos to you! MOTHER OF THE YEAR : )
2008-01-01 02:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a pat on the back and go to the top of the 'Caring Mother' list for the week.
Well done keep all alcohol away from children and family, keep it out of your love life and don't tolerate anybody using a motor vehicle around alcohol...... you and your toddler will live, laugh and love longer!
2008-01-01 02:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by John B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're being honest and the reason you told him you'd go the next day is for your son's safety then you are not being petty...you're being smart. But if you call him and tell him that you are sorry and you WILL go today then it certainly sounds that it was because of jealousy from him going out or something and THEN you will have been petty.
2008-01-01 01:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Erika H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck no you are not being petty at all. your being a responsible parent. kudos to you. and screw anyone who dont understand. now matter how much or little anyone drinks,you have to do what you feel is right in taking care of your child. a 5 year old will get in any car you do,and he needs you to protect him. if you choose to cruize with someone whos drunk,thats your choice and u have to live with the consiquences. but as a parent your choices affect ur kid too. always go with your instinct no matter what......and happy new year!!!!
2008-01-01 01:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by WAYNE A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not being petty, you were being safe. That is your job as a parent and a responsible adult, to be safe.
This guy is no friend to want to drive drunk with you and your son in the car.
I would not text him anymore. I would not talk to him anymore. He is a loser and you have no need of a guy like this in your life.
You love your son too much to hang around with a guy that cares for only himself.
2008-01-01 01:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋