About a year a half ago, I found a breast lump and now I have several. They don't grow very quickly though. I also have pain in my back and shoulder blades, pelvis and ribs sometimes. But then I'll go for weeks with no pain at all. My right side where my liver is hurts now and I feel like I'm getting fatter around the middle even though I don't think I've been eating more or anything.
I have 2 kids - great kids whom I love with everything I have - ages 13 and 15 and I want to live see them grow up and have children of their own, I really do. But for some reason, that doesn't seem to be enough to make me overcome my fear of hearing a doctor say I have cancer and having to be examined. I know it's stupid, but I am very modest and I hate to be touched and I'm terrified of anyone seeing me naked. I know, you're wondering how the hell I had 2 kids. Well I haven't always been like this. But anyway, what is wrong with me? Why aren't my kids enough to make me want to get treatment?
2007-12-31 17:11:37 · 9 answers · asked by Someday Soon 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thank you Tencia for saying I'm not stupid.
2007-12-31 17:28:57 · update #1
HI. I Know you are scared, and it is normal to be scared. I get scared sometimes too. I think you truly know what to do deep inside, and that is to go to the doctor. You may have cancer, you may not. It may be something different. You will sleep better at night going to the doctor. Please take somebody with you that you trust. Also, you are not stupid.
2007-12-31 17:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by Tencia B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check your lumps again. If they move fairly freely as though they are not glued to anything, then you are cystic and do not probably have cancer. Usually cancer doesn't develop several lumps (I would say generally not always). But you MUST get seen! See a therapist if this is paralyzing you, as you owe it not to yourself but to your children. Ask a good friend to go with you.
2008-01-01 01:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anna P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO TO THE DOCTOR! in your mind you have this little thought that says''im healthy,i dont need a doctor'' that is not true. it doesnt hurt to go to the doctor and test. but it does hurt to not go and risk have cancer and finally going after a while and catching cancer at a later form. THEY ARE DOCTORS! THERE JOB IS TO HELP YOU!!!
2008-01-01 01:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by brian16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant love the kids too much if you wont take care of their mom
2008-01-01 01:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by wantajeannie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's the fear of the unknown. As long as you pretend it doesn't exist then you can trick yourself into believing you do not need medical care.
It's one thing to know it but completely different to actually hear someone say it.
As hard as it is, you must go to the doctor ASAP. DO It for your children, wouldn't it be really sad if they found out you could have had treatment and lived a longer life and you chose not to??
Good luck, I will keep you and your children in my thoughts and prayers!
2008-01-01 01:18:10 · answer #5 · answered by it's me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How will your children manage without a mother? Do you want them to cry because they don't have a mom to go to? That is cruel and selfish. If you don't care about yourself, at least care enough about them to get treatment. While you're at it, tell the Dr. that you are very depressed. You need help for that too.
For the love of your children, make an appointment.
2008-01-01 01:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you dont want to hear the truth, and you just want to live in denial. its normal. but for you to live longer and see your kids grow, you will need to see a doctor and if you are diagnosed with cancer, then get treated.
---please for your family's sake.
2008-01-01 01:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you're selfish...and stupid...and I really hope this is a joke
2008-01-01 01:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by Sue 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you do have cancer, it is a crippling, horrible way to die....I'd suggest overcoming your fear, doing the responsible thing and seeing a doctor. It may not even be cancer....
2008-01-01 01:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋