I've now met two women who homeschool their kids, who tell me they feel that they and their spouse should choose their future children's spouse. They feel that they are in the best situation to know what is best for their children.
It seems like these parents are trying to control even what happens to them as adults and not allow their children to have the right to make any decisions for themselves.
What do you think about this?
2007-12-31 16:26:14 · 16 answers · asked by Searcher 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No, this is not made up or a troll question...I had conversations with moms who do believe this way. I also heard a radio show called "revive our hearts" where the announcer stated that the parent has the duty to select their child's future spouse. She stated that a parent will look beyond physical attraction and is capable of making a mature decision for their adult children's best interests. Obviously they do not believe their teens should go on dates.
2008-01-01 12:42:10 · update #1
We home-school and have heard a number of folks say the same thing.
Some folks are likely trying to influence and control their kids lives. I will also say that I know one married couple who were arranged, if you will, and now are doing the same with their kids.
I won't even attempt it. I remember my mom always trying to set me up with this gal and that gal - I still shiver thinking about it. Not that this gal and that gal weren't everything my mom said that they were, but the idea that my mom would set me up was just too revolting for some reason. With this in mind, I'd never do this to my kids.
I don't agree with other parents doing this either, but will defend those folks who have come from communities which have heavily influenced their children's spouses over the years - although I don't agree with them either.
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2007-12-31 18:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by super Bobo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Crappy school district (I live in one where the public school is AWFUL! Full of bullying and drugs! And I actually live in a pretty affluent area.) 2) Child has other priorities and just needs to finish school. I knew a girl who was homeschooled and graduated high school by age 14. She now attends online college. She's only fifteen but she's been on Broadway and she's starring in a new Disney channel pilot. 3) Kid needs special attention that regular schools can't offer. I'm not homeschoooled, but sometimes I think it would be much simpler. You can meet people and do activities and everything out of school that you would do in school. I know a lot of kids that are homeschooled and they aren't "weird' their parents aren't "over protective" they just found a system that works for them. School is about education. You can actually be even better educated through homeschooling. You can have quick classes and do your work, then you can also do a TON of other activities and have a flexible schedule.
2016-05-28 08:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by myung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is a made up question. I am a home schooled teen, who is now in college. I have met thousands of other home schooling families from across the nation and never once heard of this before. it was very common 2000+ years ago, but not at all today, unless you live in some 3rd world country.
2007-12-31 17:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think that is nuts
I know some people homeschool very well.. but I also know some who dont..
I recently watched a TV show called JESUS CAMP.. it was scarey - they showed kids being brainwashed for Churh Purposes and showed the statistic that 75% of homeschooled kids in USA are Evangelical Christians.. and showed a clip of a mom "homeschooling" her son.. it was hillarious (sad).. I was in shock at what she was teaching him...
at one point they discussed "Global Warming and pollution" and mom said they dont need to worry about it because Jesus is coming to save every one soon so it wont matter...
my eyes nearly popped out.. and now you are saying they want to arrange their kids marriage...
omg talk about control freaks!!! these kids are so sheltered from the world and now that?? and their parents are the only authoritity figures they know..
disgusting!
2007-12-31 17:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by CF_ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Little children should not marry....LOL
Seriously,instead of choosing a suitable future mate for their child,a responsible parent should rather concentrate on teaching the child, "how".. to choose.
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2007-12-31 16:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I homeschooled for 3 years because of my hubby's job but never felt that way. I could barely tell them what TV shows they were allowed to watch. :-)
2007-12-31 16:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by punxy_girl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel that a parent should ever choose the life partner their child will be living with. I know in a lot of cultures it is tradition, but I believe firmly that every person has the right to choose the person they love.
2007-12-31 16:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by fae1999 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I really have no idea why some parents are so controlling. I certainly would not have wanted my parents to pick my mate. I met some of the "nice boys" my mother tried to push on me as it was! Yuck and double Yuck!
2007-12-31 16:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you kidding!! What era and culture do these people think they live in!
i feel so sorry for kids whose parents wrap them in cotton wool and provide them with no opportunities to learn lifes lesson on their own terms.
2007-12-31 16:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well, in some cultures that is a tradition. to each his own I guess...that would not have worked for me and it probably doesn't work for everyone.
2007-12-31 16:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋