so this guy nd ive been chatting for like .. 2 years now. he lives in another state, it's about 200 miles i guess. and recently i started to have feelings for him and he told me he's felt the same for a yr and a half, even though i know he's had some short term relationships. so now what do i do? keep feeling the way i do for another 6 months til summer when he say he could visit? i dont know .. i dont even know if i really like him, how can you like someone you never met? we talked on the phone, and everytime we do the time just seems to fly by.. i have no idea. any advice/ experience ?
2007-12-31 16:26:03 · 36 answers · asked by wasabi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are using your head, you can't know if you have feelings for someone you never met. You can form friendships as long as both of you are realistic, and accept the fact that you may never meet, and if you do there may be no chemistry. A lot of people romanticize someone online probably because it is so easy to talk, and there is always that aura of mystery.
Internet relationships don't have anymore chance of working than do random meetings with people in other places. Think about how many guys you have met that you just didn't feel anything for.
If Internet relationships are going to work, you need to meet fairly quickly to test the chemistry. Then you can decide if there is any reason to continue to chat and work toward being together. If you a great distance apart, and can't move to be closer, chances are it is doomed.
2007-12-31 16:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
specific, nicely, i've got met a great type of somewhat outstanding human beings on line, those that throughout my own life i would not have been waiting to fulfill with out the internet. i think of it relies upon on the courting. while you're married and having a flirtatious sexual courting with somebody on line, specific, it somewhat is cheating. while you're chatting lower back and forth with a pal you have chanced on you have issues in common with and that they be conscious of you're married, have no objective of donning it from now on, then no, it is not cheating.
2016-11-27 02:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you meet right way, or you just stop it.
I "found" my mate inhere, but I did everything possible to meet in reality. And it worked out. If I continued the virtual communication it wouldn't exist anymore.
2007-12-31 19:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
On line is great for messages and general staying in touch, but when it comes to a real relationship you must develop that with person to person, live and in living color. Anything less than live and real is doing yourself a diservice. Just to make my point...Marry on-line and live with your mate on-line
and try reproduction on-line...It's really missing something huh? I think that probably you are searching in all the wrong places, the wrong ways, for the right person. Try prayer and asking for the Lord's wisdom and direction. I can almost assure you better, more satisfying, results. The Holy Spirit would have me ask you, "Do you love the person you are?"
If not, then let's work on that before you can really love another and expect them to love you. There is no doubt that you are special and lovable so let's seek for a Godly mate while knowing that you have much to give in the relationship and that you are deserving of a lasting, eternal love!
Dr. Bob
2007-12-31 16:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by BoomBoom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I think was you are feeling is idealism-fantasy about who this guy is. I would never suggest an internet relationship. To me they are not real and definitely do not count. It is nice to make friends, but how much can you really know about person without ever meeting them, and getting to know who they really are and more importantly, what they are about. I notice that you mentioned that this guy has had some short term relationships. Observation: short term. Question: why? I am assuming that these are with people that he has actually met and gotten to know and vs versa. Maybe you are next on the list. I would suggest that you remain friends due to the distance. Even when he comes out in the summertime, it is only for a visit. I would not get to caught up with this long distance, internet person. Keep it real with those physically around you, how do you know he is not. : )
2007-12-31 16:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by DONNA W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i love a lady i have never met and we are not dewy eyed teenagers --- if you want the relationship to work it will --- i dont know how old you both are but i do know that 320 km is not really a long way --- a few hours in a car -- if neither are prepared to travel that distance on a regular basis (even the train) then your relationship is not all that important to you --- decide what you are prepared to do to be together and let that decide if you want to keep going ---- have fun
2007-12-31 16:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that doesnt sound really safe to me... but hell, not everyone is an online rapist killer..
my mom met her husband on the internet. so it works sometimes...
go with what your gut tells you..
goodluck!
2007-12-31 16:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like an online relationship, but, if i were you, i wouldn't meet him, because you don't know who he really is.
2007-12-31 16:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by Araceli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way you're going to know if there is a definite spark is if you meet each other.
Is there any way one of you can travel for a holiday?
2007-12-31 16:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea how you feel being that Ive never fallen for someone Ive never met, but honestly think about it. A bunch of people use the online dating websites right? So why not wait until you can meet him. You obviously care about him a great deal and he feels the same for you. Stick it out, wait 6 months! Good luck
2007-12-31 16:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋