I have 15 month old identical twin boys that are starting to hit. They will hit me if I do not give them what I have, and they are now hitting eachother. I cannot figure out how to teach them this is wrong. They see eachother doing it, so they think it's funny. I am a stay at home mom with NO help, and I am going nuts!
2007-12-31 15:08:51 · 16 answers · asked by Paige S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
look them in the eye and tell them NO as sternly as possible. Sometimes refraining from giving them the item will work but they might be to young for that. When you catch them hitting each other ...again look them in the eye sternly say no and separate them.
good luck
2007-12-31 15:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by miranda - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think the best thing you can do is intervene.
Don't give them a chance to hit you... or stop them in the process. Grab their hands and look them right in the eyes and tell them in a stern voice, "No hitting, be nice to your Mommy." Show them that you are the boss... I know they are 15 months, but it sounds like there is a little bit of a power struggle going on... especially since they only does it to you.
Sometimes we just need to understand from their point of view as they cannot fully express themselves.
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2008-01-02 19:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by Dan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-31 17:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work at a per school so I get a lot of kids that hit me or hit the other children. I get down to there level and tell them I don't like that your hitting my friend or I don't like that your hitting me but make sure you look them in the eyes and that they are looking at you and try not to be too loud with your voice b/c that scares them. If it looks like they are not listening tell them listen to my words and pint at your mouth and tell them that they are doing a bad thing.
GOOD LUCK
2007-12-31 16:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by chila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIME OUT!!
give them ONE stern warning saying "NO! Do not hit mummy/brother"
If they continue to do it put them in timeout ( I think the safest place at that age would be their cot) for 2 mins. When you go back, say again but in a softer voice, "Hitting is not nice. No more hitting okay"
Keep it up ALL the time with consistency and it will stop pretty fast.
2007-12-31 16:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are old enough for time outs. If you have to, separate them in different rooms and commence the time out on each one. A minute should be long enough. But what ever your punishment is BE CONSISTANT.
2007-12-31 16:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Matt T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell them no, in a calm yet direct way, that hitting and violence will not be tolerated in your home/presence. Get down to their level, look them in the eye and say it sternly and clearly, but do not lose your temper. Time outs are good, but make sure they know what they did wrong. When I was younger (I'm 14 now) I remember getting put in time outs for what seemed to me like no reason. There was a reason, but my parents did not make it clear to me at the time. Never hit your children back, as this will show them that violence is okay because you use it, even if you use it in retaliation. Hopefully they will grow out of this, but it is important to show them that violence is never the answer at a very young age, and be consistent throughout their childhood.
2007-12-31 15:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit them down and look them in the eye and tell them that that is wrong and show them why by telling them they can get boo boos
2007-12-31 15:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by Dancerxo8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a wooden spoon and popped their little heineys!
2007-12-31 15:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jazzi P 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Look them straight in the eye put one of your hands on each arm and sternly tell them NO, that hurts mommy. Give them a time out every time they do that, keep reinforcing it and don't let them get away with it.
So just stick with it, right now, they think they are just playing and don't realize it is more serious.
Hitting them back is not going to accomplish anything, but will only teach them to hit more.
2007-12-31 15:33:02 · answer #10 · answered by bobcatlady2u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋