I'm wanting to know... (please don't report this question because it is really important and I need to know the answer)...
If you have oral sex have you lost your virginity?
Now I know that whatever happens God forgives you, if you are truly sorry for what you have done (In the case of having it outside of marriage).
I just want to know because having sex you lose your virginity, so I was wondering about oral sex.
Thankyou - your answers will be much appreciated.
2007-12-31 14:22:54 · 18 answers · asked by Marith M 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
wow that question was a mouthful
2007-12-31 14:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by DiscoDave AM 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, your virginity has not been lost.
2007-12-31 23:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by paula r 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you say "I know that whatever happens God forgives you"? The only reason I ask is because there ARE requisites for forgiveness, and "being sorry" is only a quarter-part of one of those requisites.
While we're probably on two opposite sides of the theological spectrum, I do have to agree with Yarcofin that if you know something is wrong and you do it anyways, you're probably not going to be truly sorry for doing it -- otherwise you probably wouldn't have done it to begin with. On the flip side though, every single one of us DOES do things at some time or another that we know are not right, and YES, God can extend forgiveness to us for even those things. But we have to do it His way.
The Bible never uses the words "lose your virginity", and the way the phrase is used nowadays is a bit different than it was in the cultures the Bible was penned in. God looks at it VERY simply: having sexual relations is having sexual relations. Period. There are no "yeah but what if ___" hypotheticals that get around that. Without being graphic, hopefully this will help you: If your motor's getting revved up, that should be your warning light telling you you should stop NOW.
There are people who will disagree with me, but there are really two ways to view "virginity": the "letter of the law" way, and the "spirit of the law" way. The "letter" way will go through endless and pointless hypothetical situations all day long trying to figure out what "technically" is or is not sex, and usually everyone's just as disagreed afterwards as they were before. The "spirit" way looks at the point of what the Bible teaches regarding how unmarried people are to approach sexual contact, recognize what the principle of meaning is, and keep it simple: "Abstain from even the appearance of evil."
Under this very simple principle, there are probably many "make-out kings and queens" who no longer would qualify as "virgins", even though many would disagree. But "virginity" in God's eyes is not an unending list of rules and legalism regarding what it is and what it isn't...virginity is a person not getting involved with anyone in a way that gets them stimulated until after they are married. That's it.
As for forgiveness, that's a different question altogether, but the abbreviated reply is as simple as prayer.
*Admit to God that you know you've messed up, that you've sinned.
*Thank Him for sending a Redeemer to humanity to pay the penalty for those sins, the Redeemer Jesus.
*Turn away from the sins you've committed -- don't just "be sorry" for them, but actually turn in the other direction and walk away from them -- and ask God to help you walk in the ways that are pleasing to Him.
*Thank Him again for providing a way of Salvation for you through His Son, and ask that He would always be with you to guide your steps.
We all have messed up in some area or another. Don't feel condemned! If you would like to, don't hesitate to send me a message directly and we can discuss it further.
In His service, and yours,
jason
2007-12-31 23:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by .:WFJF:. Jason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your approach to the whole subject is totally wrong.
Any sexual activity or intimacy, is intended for marriage.
The issue is not virginity, but chastity, within a relationship.
Think about how you'd explain it to your future spouse.
2007-12-31 22:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by Robert S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
noun
1. anal or oral copulation with a member of the opposite sex.
2. copulation with a member of the same sex.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/sodomy
2007-12-31 22:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether you are talking about your physical virginity or you are speaking morally or spiritually. Only through intercourse can you lose your physical virginity. But if you engaged in oral sex, you are no longer virginal morally or spiritually pure.
If you have sinned, confess you sin and turn to God.
2007-12-31 22:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by jakejr6 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's only if there is intercourse.
2007-12-31 22:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything's fine, relax.
Your hymen is intact. Experimentation is normal but remember, one thing can lead to another. Please be careful.
2007-12-31 22:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For women, you lose your virginity when your hymen is broken. It's a physical thing and it actually hurts a bit when it happens. The hymen is located inside the vagina.
For guys, virginity equals innocence. No physical barrier to be broken.
Your question doesn't ask for male or female. If male, the answer is probably yes. If female, it depends on whether there is penetration to break the hymen.
2007-12-31 22:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get on your knees and ask for forgiveness.
While you're down there........
2007-12-31 22:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by frank 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You aren't truely sorry if you knew it was wrong but decided to do it anyway.
Prime example of Christians being total hypocrites. Give up on your fictional characters and just do what you want for **** sake.
2007-12-31 22:27:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋