One of my neighbors always comes and asks me for things. I always give it to him if I have it, but my husband doesn't like him to much. Today he knocked on my door and asked if I would give him a ride and his granddaughter would watch my kids. No way I can do that so I just said my husband would not like that and he just said ok and left.
My question is should I tell my husband? It will make him really mad and I don't want trouble in my building. We are so close to moving and want things to stay calm till then. But my husband would also be mad if I didn't tell him.
What should I do?
2007-12-31 14:12:15 · 39 answers · asked by Umm Ali 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Ramadan
Just wanted to add I never open the door and talk to him personally. Last time he asked for something to drink I slid come packets of cool aid under the door. If my husband is home I don't even talk to the man. I try to be nice as he is old but to ask me for a ride was out of line. Maybe he doesn't understand that Muslim women just don't give strange men a ride, especially at night.
2007-12-31 15:01:26 · update #1
You have done the right thing. Muslim woman can not ride in a car with another man unless a your family member is also in the car with you.
You should tell your husband that he asked for ride and you turn him down. He will be happy with you. He may tell the neighbor never to knock your door again. That way you will be free from his pestering. It is not good idea to hide from
your husband.
2007-12-31 14:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by majeed3245 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Sister, I believe you should tell your husband. You never know who is behind the scene. If by chance your husband comes to know about it from someone else, then can u imagine his anger then? so its better to tell your husband and ask him to stay calm. you mentioned his granddaughter it means he must be aged, so tell your husband that man has some mental probs may be. I'm hopeful that inshAllah your husband will understand the matter. Tell your husband about it! All the best ~!
2007-12-31 21:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband cuz your neighbor is using you and if your husband doesnt like hiim then you shouldnt even talk to him
2007-12-31 14:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, tell your neighbor your feelings. If he(your neighbor) gets mad, remember you tried. I thin you should tell your husband. You married him for goodness sake!! You can not keep this from your spouse. Your husband wil still love you.
2007-12-31 14:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should tell your husband, but make it stand out that the fact that you said NO you wouldn't do what the neighbour wanted.
Your husband is jealous of you and doesn't like neighbours (male) being with you when he is not around - which is quite right, I am female and would think the same if there was a woman coming to my door to ask my husband things when I wasn't home.
But better to tell your husband first rather than hearing it from someone else - like accidentally from your kids etc.
2007-12-31 14:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by Stormy weather 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That sounds like it would get annoying after awhile. It is nice of you to want things between your husband to stay calm while you're moving. If I were you, I wouldn't tell my husband. I wouldn't want him to get mad, plus it was just one extra time your neighbor asked you for something. You're not moving because of your neighbor are you? It is hard telling your neighbor to shut up and go away, but enough is enough, you want to live your own life in peace! Next time your neighbor asks you for something, tell him the truth. "It gets really annoying doing things for you, and I am under a lot of stress. Let's just stay away from each other for awhile." (or something like that?)
2007-12-31 14:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by Little P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've spoiled your neighbor, you've catered to your husband, and you've betrayed yourself. Practice "NO!"
2007-12-31 14:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jay R 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This may be a time of "what he doesn't know won't hurt you". If you are capable of keeping it a secret for the rest of your life, try. In a year it won't matter because you will be moved and this incident will be forgotten.
2007-12-31 14:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dude sounds like a stalker and is hitting on you big time. Avoid him as much as possible and yes tell your husband. With the under stading that there will be no lost teeth after you tell him.
2007-12-31 14:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jeanny W 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I would tell your husband. Don't ignore the problem...it will just get worse. Also, don't make a huge deal about it, just present him with the facts. If you talk about how your day's were when he gets home, do it then. If you don't talk about how your days went, just bring it up when he is calm. But don't hide things from your husband.
2007-12-31 14:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by ღyesღ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋