I have tried my whole life to try and please people around me and thought it would be nice to have kids or being married but, gradually I have been thinking about getting my tubes tied and just not getting married......out of the two ecspecially getting my tubes tied. Is this selfish from a biblical perspective? I'm thinking so but, when ever I stop thinking about kids and a husband I feel so much better about life. What opinion do you have on the matter?
2007-12-31 13:58:20 · 37 answers · asked by curious female.... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know a baby can really change your life.. I think it would be too early to make a decision about that.. I mean lets say that you get married and what if your husband wants kids after like 4 years?? What if you want them. Are you telling me when your peers come by with their cutest baby in their hand and shows you how much fun it is to have a cutest baby in your life you will be ok??? From a biblical approach it sounds the same as abortion so i dont think bible would support it... ITs denying another kid to enjoy this beautiful world?? I'm sure you would like to know how great of a mother you can be to your child.. And i hope to god i've helped you a bit in making your decision
2007-12-31 14:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage & children aren't for everyone & no, it's not a sin because you feel as you do. However, you have a lot of living to do & you may change your mind someday. Never say never. Truthfully, don't get your tubes tied right now. Many women are happy in life without marriage & children & can find fulfillment in life in other ways. I know many who marry & have children & shouldn't for so many obvious reasons.
2007-12-31 14:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of life left to live before having to make a final decision on marriage or children. The best decision for you to make now is to decide to enjoy your life and use protection when you do have sex so that you are not forced into an unwanted pregnancy. I am 37 years old, have been married three times (still with #3), have a 20 year old daughter and my husband and I are raising her two children who are 2 and 1. Stop worrying about pleasing your family or the pressures of marriage and kids right now and just tell people that say anything to you that you are not ready to settle down into that kind of commitment at this time and that you might never be. At 24 you need to please yourself as you are the one that has to live with the decisions that you make.
I wish you luck in whatever you decide to do and acceptance from your family in whatever road you may choose.
2007-12-31 14:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by cajun_queen_1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are not just a baby factory. If you don't want children that is your choice; don't let anyone make the decision for you. Age 24 is still young. You have plenty of time to decide. Best of luck to you.
2007-12-31 14:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're still young and getting your tubes tied is a drastic way to avoid having kids. you can choose whether or not to have children or get married. there are other birth control methods. don't worry about what's selfish from a biblical perspective. the bible doesn't send checks every months to the parents of all those excess children whose parents can't afford to provide a supportive, loving home or even feed them.
stop trying so hard to please others and figure out what's right for you. you may need help with this, and once you've done your homework, you may change your mind about men, marriage and kids.
2007-12-31 14:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by wendy.bryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with what you feel in your heart is the best thing for you. Bringing unwanted children into the world is certainly not going to make you feel better!! As far as men go, that is up to you. Eventually you may meet the guy that is right for you, but no big rush. And by the way, there are plenty of guys out there that don't want kids, so don't let that part worry you.
2007-12-31 14:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is wait until you are 30, and then reconsider. For one thing, they might come up with a better way to avoid having children, if you still feel that way. Meanwhile, give an intimate relationship with a man a try--if you haven't already. Never know, maybe you just haven't met the "right" guy!
2007-12-31 14:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by gwhillikers2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, PLEASE don't let anyone talk you into getting married or having kids if you don't want to. There is nothing wrong with you!!! People are different and can't be happy if they just do things to please others. Search deep, and be true to yourself!
2007-12-31 14:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by buffylou16 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not selfish at all. The worst thing would be to have children you don't want, because you felt some sort of obligation.
But I'd suggest you don't do anything permanent at your age: you may change your mind later.
As for the Biblical perspective, why not try thinking for yourself for a change, rather than relying on a transcriptions from the mumblings of dead men with beards?
2007-12-31 14:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by gillespiebkk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must find your own way through life.
No one should tell you are supposed to have kids or tell you not to. That is a personal matter. Parents sometimes make comments to the children because they would like to have grandchildren but if the thought of having children makes you unhappy then you should NOT do it. Marriage is not for everyone. Some folks just need more space than a marriage will allow. Your comment tells me you are being more rational than many young women today. They marry without thinking about it then divorce a few years later. That disrupts the lives of many people. Your truthfulness with yourself makes a great deal more sense.
2007-12-31 14:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋