2007-12-31 13:42:52 · 6 answers · asked by 4REAL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Other than losing a loved one to death, I know of no other emotional pain as excruciating as a broken heart. It took me months to heal from mine...unfortunately, you can't "fix" a broken heart, but you can "heal" from a broken heart. And that takes time...
What I did was focus on the future, rather than the here and now. You have to remember that this pain is only temporary, you WILL move on and recover. That being said, let it out as much as you can. Cry, be angry, talk to your friends. Do not hold it inside, the sooner you let it out, the sooner you will get over this person. But grieve in private or with your friends, do not show this person your pain. They left you, they have no business knowing what kind of effect they have on you, it is not their place anymore. In fact, you are best to stay away from them all together. Don't call, write, talk to or see this person. It will only make matters worse as it will probably hurt you more. If they left you, they probably don't want to talk to or see you. Spare yourself the pain and let them go. If you truly love this person, you HAVE to let them go...you owe it to yourself. After all, you don't want to manipulate someone into being with you because they feel guilty for hurting you. You want someone to be with you because they truly love and want to be with you.
The thing to remember is that when a relationship ends, it's not because you were not right for them. It ends because you BOTH were not right for EACH OTHER. So in the beginning you might think you need closure or another chance to make it right. In the beginning, you will obsess about what you did wrong, what you should have done. You will probably feel desperate to make amends and get another chance. But ultimately, if you two are not right for each other, then none of that matters.
And also, if you two are not right for each other, than it is not your fault. So don't blame yourself, no matter what happened or why this person left you, do not blame yourself.
You may have made mistakes in the relationship, after all we are human, but it is up to the other person how they react. You are not responsible for their reaction. For example, if you did something wrong, and you apologized and kept trying to make it right, but ultimately the person couldn't forgive you, then that is their problem, not yours. You are not responsible for their inability to forgive.
Keep your chin up and cut yourself a break if you do give in and talk to this person or do something you regret during the healing process. Give your heart time. Just like you can't rush the healing of a broken bone, you can't rush the healing of a broken heart, it will heal in its own time.
Remember, you do deserve love and happiness. A broken heart makes a person more compassionate. You will remember this pain you experienced in your next relationship (yes, you will have another relationship, trust me!) and maybe this will prevent you from hurting someone else the way you were hurt. Good luck and I wish you the best...
2007-12-31 14:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by noone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 17:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chocolate, 500 g daily.
2007-12-31 13:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your self good, buy some clothes, buy some roses, watch a nice movie, courtesy of http://movieforumz.com, listen to some music you love go to parties, just have some fun - thats hat i did.
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2007-12-31 13:50:02 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invest in yourself.
Now is a good time to make changes - get a new hair cut/ new color, take up a new hobby. If you focus on yourself and finding happiness for yourself. Eventually the heart heals.
2007-12-31 13:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by Boots 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing that can mend a broken heart.
2007-12-31 13:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by Happy2bAlive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋