My daughter is 20 years old and Tonight, I do not want her driving past 8:00 P.M. because it's new years eve. She was supposed to be going bowling with her friends and I asked her friend who is 21 to drive her and her friends to the bowling alley. She was very upset with me. She had planned to have her friend's stay at our house but got angry with me and decided to stay at a girlfriend's house instead. She wants to drive to the girlfriend's house but I do not feel comfortable with her driving there at 10:00 P.M. after they go bowling. I asked her friend again to drive her to the girlfriend's house and I told my daughter I would pick her up the next morning. She is VERY angry with me.
Am I being a bit overprotective??
2007-12-31 11:53:23 · 11 answers · asked by Nnay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah, nothings gunna change from 8:00 P.M. to 10:00 P.M.
2007-12-31 12:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by Joel J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with her driving? If you are afraid she may get in an accident then it can also happen if her friend is driving and your daughter would get hurt either way. I'm sure your daughter is responsible and safe when driving. And I know it being New Years you are worried about what can happen since there are a lot of crazy people out during the holidays, but you need to trust your daughter more. You also need to let her live life. You can't hold onto her forever.
2007-12-31 12:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by *Dreamer* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no doubts about it. You are being overprotective. She is 20 years old and she can do whatever she wants without your approval. I can understand that you are doing this because you are her mother and you love her, but you have to understand that you can not control her anymore. She is now mature and responsible. Let her go out with her friends. She knows the difference between right and wrong, let her make the choices. If she makes mistakes, she will learn from them.
2007-12-31 12:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you are a good mom. Stick to your guns. If she continues to throw a fit, then tell her if she don't quit she's staying home alone. In fact, I wouldn't go for the change in plans either. The plan was at your house, and if she doesn't want that, then she stays home so you can keep an eye.
You can't let her get away with these things, it will be worse for her later on.
2007-12-31 12:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by Leopardlady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a little bit, but you do have a good point.
you cant trust other people who have been drinking....
is there any way you can make a compromise?
maybe have her call you right before they leave the bowlign alley, and then call right when they get to their house.
im not sure, but I bet you guys can make a compromise!
2007-12-31 12:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by .dreamin.w/.him. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes your being overprotective.
let her live, she honestly wont do anything wrong.
you need to let go sooner or later . shes 20 you need to realize she is an adult. How are you ever gonna realize shes an adult if you keep stopping her from making descisions and such ?
let her go, dont worry everythings fine .
you are overprotective but your her mom, its called tough love.
anywways
bye :)♥
2007-12-31 12:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are. You shouldn't ask her friends to drive either, its embarassing to her. Plus, her friends a year older, no difference. It sort of makes it sound like you either don't trust your daughter, or that you'd rather her friend be responsible if an accident happened. =/
2007-12-31 12:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by ωαs iт? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but better safe than sorry. We have had the same arguements in our house.
2007-12-31 11:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly Lover 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a little she is 20, she not you little baby anymore.
give her a bit of freedom, she knows whats wrong and right.
2007-12-31 11:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe a wee bit. but if it's your house and your car, it's also your privelege.
2007-12-31 11:58:16 · answer #10 · answered by Ruth C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋