I'm a very sarcastic/cynical kind of person and sometimes I say things that are very mean. How can I not be a jerk? I'm trying to be a nice person. Sometimes I say mean things. How can I be better?
2007-12-31 11:47:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You concern about this shows that you are a sensitive individual who cares about others. Reserve your sarcasm for good friends who understand you and your sense of humor. They can appreciate how witty you are.
2007-12-31 11:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Peggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be a nicer person. Sometimes we say stupid stuff: we're human! It's going to take some determined work on your part. Since we're in the etiquette section, it's appropriate to say that proper etiquette requires the "Golden Rule" : that you treat the other person as you would like to be treated! In other words, you treat others as best as you possibly can. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. You can be a positive person who chooses not to say negative, thoughtless things that hurt others. You can do it!
PS You know, it's a wild, scary, negative and dangerous world out there: we don't need to treat each other in such a way that reinforces that.
2008-01-01 14:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going with nl on this one. ani said it best "just give up and admit that you're an a$$hole, youd be in some good company, i think youd find that your friends will forgive you..." i have embraced my inner a- hole and most of my friends have come to love it. i am the go to guy for comic relief in any tense situation. the key to this is never going for the easy mark. if you have to pick on some one make sure its the person most able to defend them self. no one likes a bully and it exudes self confidence rather than the opposite. be insensitive about broad and non imediate subjects. unless your audience is particularly sensitive to a given subject roll with it. no spousal abuse jokes to the girl with the black eye. youll find your rythym soon enough.
good luck
2007-12-31 21:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off think before you speak. Then get some help to find out where your anger is coming from and how you can control it. You have an anger issue. It comes from somewhere and you need to find out why you need to be mean. It's as simple as that. It's not so simple if you choose not to get the help you need. You also may have a control issue which could elevate itself in relationships that wouldn't be very nice to your partners. Get a counselor and start working on yourself. You obviously believe this to be a problem or you wouldn't be asking the question.
2007-12-31 20:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem. I have found in my professional life that it is better just to either apologize after or confirm the genuosity of most statements I make. Just roll with it, being a very low-grade sociopath is okay.
2007-12-31 19:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by nlayman561 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think before you say something. then re-think how the person will take it. then adjust accordingly.
2007-12-31 19:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by Winters child 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think before you respond to someone! Or maybe the environment u're in is making u to be that way, or the pple you hangout with. so Think before you say something if u really mean to change your sarcasm!
2007-12-31 19:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Wonderful G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a resulotion that from today you will not say anything negative or sarcastic to anyone.
2008-01-01 04:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋