i want to know i have a purpose in life?

Question

please you guys i am being so serious. i think i might be depressed, but this isn't dealing with my question. i want to know i have a purpose in life and that people care about me. right now i dont feel that AT ALL. i feel no need to explain why, bc it is alot, but i will just tell you i feel really empty inside and basically like i have no emotion. i feel numb. anyways i never really prayed and dont go to church but that doesnt mean i dont believe in God. but praying and asking God what my purpose in life is, or for him to prove i have a purpose otheriwse i feel i might do something stupid that i will regret. i kind of feel like i dont deserve to be healthy and happy. instead i should be really sick and almost dying in a hospital and see if people would actually care about me or just forget me and wouldn't even notice if i were to die. thats how i feel. im sorry if its confusing im just speaking whats in my mind. im 16. i know i should be happy w/ it being a new year but im just not..

please i know this should help but nothings helping!! i feel so empty inside right now. i have friends, until i realized they were all talking behind my back, and my family is too busy arguing. my whole entire family is always fighting whether its my parents, or aunts or grandparents. i feel like i need to just ask God to let something bad happen to me and then see if people really do care about me which they probably dont or else i feel like i will end up harming myself some way which i really dont want to do, but.. ugh i just dont know anymore! i feel so bad right now.

i honestly dont think anyone would even care of even less notice if i died or was dying.

i feel SO bad, i want the feeling to go away. i dont know what to do! :( i have been sad before but never to the point where i feel like this. where i feel like no one will care if i die in a car crash or in a hospital dying. i just want to know i have a purpose and people care about me. thats all i want!

Answer 1

You were born; therefore, you have a purpose!
You are very young and haven't lived enough to learn what that purpose is. It also sounds as though you have had some very negative experiences that have you doubting yourself.

Perhaps your New Year's resolution could be to volunteer at something that brings your gift of life to others. Are you a good reader? You could resolve to read to children or seniors who are in a hospital or rest home. The list of possibilities could go far beyond space limitations here.

The bottom line is that purpose is usually found when we reach out beyond our own selves and serve to enhance the life and well-being of others.

Happy New Year and be well.

Answer 2

I agree...rather depressing isn't it. Edit: Just try to be happy you're alive. Each and every one of us are extremely lucky to be alive. The chances of you being alive are incredibly slim. It means, if your parents hadn't happened to meet, you wouldn't be here. The same goes for your grandparents, your great grandparents.... Keep going down the line and it'd uncover trillions upon trillions of circumstances that were a threat to us not being here. But all of these circumstances took place from the time we were mere fish swimming in the ocean. This is probably the only life we'll get. Other people don't have it as good as us. Each and every one of us should soak up all the happiness life has to bring and treat each other peacefully, with love and respect because we're all on the same boat and life is emotional.

Answer 3

Hi,
There is good news and bad news.

The bad news is that every logical person will agree that without God, there is no purpose in life.

“Unless you assume a God, the question of life’s purpose is meaningless.” –Bertrand Russell (noted 20th century mathematician, philosopher and Nobel laureate)

Russell was also an atheist but he nevertheless understood that we have no purpose unless God gave it to us. Everyone who rejects God will spend their life trying to avoid the depression that you experience. They will tell us to "just live life" or "live life to the fullest" or "make the world a better place" or whatever but the real, unspoken goal is to keep from suicide.

We have this need for worth in our human nature. We need to know that our life is worth living. But things that have no purpose also have no worth. We try to get the feeling of worth through the eyes of others, doing good deeds so we'll be admired. But we are just kidding ourselves that the praise of others gives us real worth.

When we were young, we got our worth just by being sons or daughters of loving parents. Love gives worth that we don't have to earn.

Christians believe that we get our worth just because our Creator wants us to be His sons and daughters.





Christians believe that our purpose is to truly seek our Creator, to allow Him to reveal Himself to us, to experience Him and to find our joy in Him. We embrace the message in the Bible that God wants to transform us into His sons and daughters. We understand that God wants us to seek Him by trying to obey His command to love our neighbor for where love is, there God is also.

Answer 4

Hi Amanda! Thank you for being so honest. We want to help in some way! Three of us are sitting here writing this note to you, to tell you that we are absolutely positive that you have a purpose in life! You said you believed in God. Well, you are actually one of his daughters, and you lived with him before you came here to this earth. He loves you. He loves us and wants us to return to Him. He knows you, what you're feeling right now, what you're capable of, what you're going through.

Our purpose is to use our talents and our gifts in becoming like the Savior, and progressing. He wants you to live on. There are people who care that you live! We do, and we don't even know you!

If you would really like more information on our purpose in life, why don't you let us know through a comment and we'll get in touch, or you can call us. My work number is 801.705.5115.
Please call!
Take care!

Answer 5

It is up to each person to find their own purpose in life, and sometimes that doesn't happen for quite a while, and it may well change, as they grow, and mature emotionally. See teens, and self esteem, in sections 13, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first, as a means of changing your focus from yourself, and ceasing useless introspection. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I ..(insert activity here).." Section 47 also refers. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated, even more so in children's hospitals, or acting as a Big Sister: there are many options; one is sure to suit you. My standard post on depression follows: See depression treatments, at ezy-build *(below) in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and also Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, as well, at http://www.mercola.com and avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments", including others as options, such as herbal remedies, Inositol, or SAMe. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even many weeks to become effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels.

Answer 6

everyone has a purpose in life, find yours!
there really isnt much else i can say. i used to feel the way you did, but i started helping people more and it made me feel sssssoooo much better. a helping heart is the best medicine.
see this: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnQ_K6AjC_QWPuZkDz.edXjuxQt.;_ylv=3?qid=20071231162117AAnwybu

Answer 7

think of all the people who have ever met in your life or touched in any way... no matter what, you have made some sort of impact on them and their lives. every single person has a purpose for being on earth and being created. sometimes, it might be something simple, such as being a great mother to 5 kids, or huge, think like oprah or something. but either way, whether you are oprah or a mother, you have just as big of a purpose in life and reason for being here. make a point of impacting those around u in a positive way and see how ur influence shines through.

u say that ur 16... you might just feel overwhelmed by authority.... just think of ways you can branch out and become more independent.

good luck! i believe in you! :)

Answer 8

there's someone you love
there's someone who loves you
there's someone who depends on you
there's someone who would be dead without you
there's someone whose life you've changed
there's someone who would die if you died
and there's at least twenty people who would mourn your death for a very long time.
(That's what I told my friend when she contemplated suicide after her mother and brother died in a car crash, God Bless Them)
Talk to someone, family, friends, a counsellor, or even a random stranger. The New Year brings sadness and happiness into people's hearts. And realize you are not a waste of space and air, you are worth something. If you weren't then God would have taken you off this Earth already. Is it that you feel guilty for being happy and alive while others around you suffer? If so then realize it's not your fault your alive and that you shouldn't blame yoursef.
Your purpose in life? We all have to figure that out on our own, God can't just tell us, it's part of being a human stuck here on Earth.
If it helps I know how you feel, I feel the same way most of the time. If you need to talk to someone feel free to talk to someone (teenage girl, even look at my profile, i'm not some crazy perv I swear on my DOG)

Answer 9

how about your family? why wouldnt they care about you? do you have any friends? if you do they care about you too....if they didnt why would they be your friends. =] if you dont have friends its a new year...so make some. your still young, be happy with life. trust me. atleast 1 person in this whole world cares about you, you just might not know who that person is...

Answer 10

i know how u feel exactly...but i suppose their is a purpose for us, its just we havn't fount it or realized it yet...good luck 2 u, & try to cheer up :)